Maya’s Magic! RIP Maya Angelou

Maya’s Magic! RIP Maya Angelou

maya angelouYesterday, the world shook with sadness at the news of the parting of Maya Angelou.

“We may encounter many defeats but we must not be defeated.”

Social media was filled with tributes to the amazing lady; even people who may not recognise her name instantly, would recognise her world-famous poetry, quotes and philosophies.

It was such a blessing that Maya passed away as peacefully as she lived.

“Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope.”

It would be such a difficult, and very long, task to include everything I found inspirational about Maya in a blog post, simply because where could I start? Her entire life was inspirational. She had such a tragic start, living with abuse, being raped by a family member at the age of 8. Both the book and the film I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings had a lasting impression on me. The tragedy continued for a long time after that, however the challenges Maya faced, she used to transform herself into an icon of forgiveness and love.

“You may not control all of the events that happen to you but you can decide not to be reduced by them.”

She went on to live her life leading by example. In her several autobiographies, she was always completely honest about what had happened to her, how she coped and how she learned from her challenges, bringing comfort to so many who could relate and learn from her strength.

“When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.”

Every woman in the world will appreciate her beautiful poem Phenomenal Woman. What a pleasure to find this video of the wonderful lady herself reciting it.

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

Thank you Maya. I will never forget how you made me feel.

 

Maya’s Magic! RIP Maya Angelou

Abraham-Hicks coming to London! Places running out fast!

Abraham-Hicks coming to London!

Abraham-Hicks coming to LondonWhoop whoop! I’m so excited!

I have been a student of Abraham-Hicks teachings for a few years now. They have been a huge influence in leading me to live a more positive life. It has been a dream of mine to see them live in person, and now I am going to!

Esther Hicks will be performing an Abraham workshop in London on September 20, 2014.

I have my ticket and will be travelling to the event, and staying in London for a couple of nights, with 4 girlfriends from North East England, all of whom I have met through Abe, and am so looking forward to meeting so many more Abe friends when we get there. The positive energy when ‘Abrahamsters’ gather together is unreal.

It would be my ultimate dream to go on one of their cruises, which I wanted to do a couple of years ago, but tickets sold out so quickly. For this event, I was not going to miss my ticket so bought it immediately on their release, thankfully as out of 2,400 tickets, in only 2 days there are only around 200 left.

You can grab one of the last remaining tickets HERE but be quick, they’re going FAST. And do introduce yourself if you see me at the event.

Their flagship bestselling book Ask and It Is Given (UK) has improved mine and many others’ lives greatly.

A SYNOPSIS OF ABRAHAM-HICKS’ TEACHINGS

1. YOU ARE A PHYSICAL EXTENSION OF THAT WHICH IS NON-PHYSICAL.

2. YOU ARE HERE IN THIS BODY BECAUSE YOU CHOSE TO BE HERE.

3. THE BASIS OF YOUR LIFE IS FREEDOM; THE PURPOSE OF YOUR LIFE IS JOY.

4. YOU ARE A CREATOR; YOU CREATE WITH YOUR EVERY THOUGHT.

5. ANYTHING THAT YOU CAN IMAGINE IS YOURS TO BE OR DO OR HAVE.

6. AS YOU ARE CHOOSING YOUR THOUGHTS, YOUR EMOTIONS ARE GUIDING YOU.

7. THE UNIVERSE ADORES YOU FOR IT KNOWS YOUR BROADEST INTENTIONS.

8. RELAX INTO YOUR NATURAL WELL-BEING. ALL IS WELL. (REALLY IT IS!)

9. YOU ARE A CREATOR OF THOUGHTWAYS ON YOUR UNIQUE PATH OF JOY.

10. ACTIONS TO BE TAKEN AND POSSESSIONS TO BE EXCHANGED ARE BY-PRODUCTS OF YOUR FOCUS ON JOY.

11. YOU MAY APPROPRIATELY DEPART YOUR BODY WITHOUT ILLNESS OR PAIN.

12. YOU CAN NOT DIE; YOU ARE EVERLASTING LIFE.

You can learn more about Abraham-Hicks HERE.

To find Abraham-Hicks materials in the US click HERE.

To find Abraham-Hicks materials in the UK click HERE.

I couldn’t leave this post without adding in a little video as an example. It’s so difficult to choose my favourite, there are so many, so I posted the first one that struck me as I wanted to get posted before tickets run out.

Abraham-Hicks coming to London!

When things go wrong … (part 3)

When things go wrong … (part 3)

how you reactFollowing on from When things go wrong … Part 1 and Part 2

I slept for what seemed like only a few minutes. It was about 4:30am when I awoke.

Remembering that my hired car was parked where it shouldn’t be, I started worrying I would have to move it before about 8am if I was to avoid a run-in with the Spanish police. I didn’t want to go walking down dark streets at that time of the morning, even though I have never felt unsafe in Spain. Going back to sleep could be risky. I may or may not wake in time. The crazy thing about narcolepsy is my ability to sleep ‘on a washing line’, as long as it’s not at night when sleep is supposed to happen!

I got up and explored my room more thoroughly, as I hadn’t had a chance before flaking out after the events of last night. As I’ve come to expect in Spain, my room and en-suite shower room were immaculately clean. Wondering why my basement room would have curtains, I looked behind to discover an open patio door, leading out into a small courtyard, only about 2 metres square. At first I worried that the door had been open while I slept, then I realised my room was the only access to the courtyard, so I was safe. It added to the cuteness of my room.

I put on my coat and decided to go look for the kitchen up on the roof terrace I remembered vaguely being told about, and see if I could make a cup of tea. I grabbed my cigarettes, Kindle and headphones. I have some guided meditations stored on my Kindle, maybe one of those would help tame the negative thoughts I already felt creeping back.

Tea made, I found the roof terrace a quiet, serene place to sit. The sky was a blanket of stars, many more than I could ever possibly see over my cloudy hometown back in the North-East of England. One star in the East, right ahead of me, seemed to shine ten times brighter than all the rest. Something about it made me feel less alone.

The anger from the previous evening pushed into my thoughts now and again, but the serenity of the night helped my soul to tame it. I turned my attention to what I have learned, and what I would be advising someone else who described such a thing happening to them.

The first thing that came up was “You have to stop the anger”. My ego argued, “Why should I stop it, I have a right to be bloody angry?”. My soul returned, “you’ll only get more of it”. Of course this made sense to me: I knew that if I continued to carry this angry emotion around, my negative energy vibration would result in the attraction of more negative consequences to myself. It wouldn’t affect him one bit.

“Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”
Gautama Buddha

when things go wrongI thought of several other of my mantras I use when facing tough times:

  • Everything happens for a reason.
  • It always works out for me.
  • Things don’t always work out as we planned, but they always work out right.
  • I may not be where I expected to be, but I am where I’m meant to be.
  • At the times when its hardest to think it, you have to remember there is a blessing in Everything

“How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.” 
― Wayne W. Dyer

Repeating these, and feeling the energy of the stars, the universe, and my guardian angels, really smoothed my frayed edges and blunted the spiky thoughts. I felt altogether more peaceful and sat there under the stars for a couple of hours. I played a meditation audio, I read some soothing words from one of my many Kindle books, smoked a few ciggies and had another cup of tea. I decided to check on a flight home later on when I could get a wifi connection.

Then I realised, I was awake early enough to watch a beautiful Nerja sunrise, a rarity for me. I’m not a morning person, and it had been many years since I had watched the sunrise from a beach here. What a treat! I headed down to the Balcon de Europa, just a 3-minute walk away, at about 6:30am.

Although the Balcon was deserted when I first arrived, I was surprised to see quite a few people arrive so soon after, a couple of obvious tourists – like me, with their cameras – and several Spanish people. How lovely, I thought, that they still make the effort to watch the sunrise, they don’t take it for granted, as many do of the beautiful scenes right at their doorsteps. It felt very spiritual, to see so many individuals, not talking to one another because each was absorbed in their own reason for being there, yet we were all connected in the soaking up of the energy of the morning. As the sun beamed “Good morning,” that bright star in the East whispered “Goodnight”.

nerja sunriseThere was a family there: they could have been grandparents, or they could have been mum and dad who had their two young sons later in life. The two adults were taking turns taking pictures of the family with the sun rising behind them. I thought, what a shame if they can’t all be in the same picture, so I walked over and gestured that I would take a picture of them all together with their camera. Happy with this, they returned the favour and took a photo of me with my phone. Language is no barrier to kindness, a smile speaks every language.

After moving my car to a better parking space, I returned to my room. I knew I needed to sleep and would not be checking out in time, so paid for another night. I would look for a flight home later. I slept all day.

when life throws you a wobblyWhen I awoke late in the afternoon, I looked for a flight. As it was such short notice, the flight prices were really quite high. I couldn’t change my existing flight, which was more than another week away, as I had already checked-in online and printed my boarding pass. I would have to pay for a new flight. It would take me way over my budget I’d saved for my holiday. After consideration, I thought if I was going to have to hit the credit card anyway for the flight, I could probably get a less expensive hostel over the other side of town, where it would be easier to park my car, and for the week it wouldn’t be too much more than the flight, add meals and spending money … Oh, blow it! The more I listened to my heart, the more I realised I HAD to stay. I hadn’t had a holiday in so long. I didn’t know when I would be able to afford or physically manage another. And my main reason was that I should not go home feeling like my holiday was ruined, not because I would blame him, but because I would blame MYSELF. I had options. While getting into debt is not something I would normally do for a holiday – being medically retired, unexpected expenses can be worrisome – it is something I felt I needed to do for peace of mind, and a week of straightening out my energy in such a lovely place. I decided I was not returning home full of regret, or blame for anyone, least of all myself.

After visiting a hotel just a couple of doors away from my favourite Irish bar, with plenty of free parking outside it, and getting a good deal on a week’s stay, I arranged to move in the following day as I’d already paid for the hostel.

I spent my last evening at the hostel focussing on the good things in my life: I was in a beautiful place. Several people had been helpful and caring in the last couple of days, this was the natural order of things. I was safe and as comfortable as I could be, despite the ongoing pain in my body which I have come to expect and manage the best I can. I was grateful to have hired the car, what would I have done without it? I was grateful that I had the emergency backup of a credit card. I decided this was going to be a lovely week ahead. I drifted into one of the most peaceful sleeps I had had in some time.

On arrival at the hotel the next day, I received a warm welcome by a young lady receptionist I had not met the previous day. She greeted me by my first name as I approached the desk as if I was an old friend. I appreciated the friendly informality.

I spent the week relaxing, chilling out, looking for things to appreciate and reasons to feel grateful, and I found them everywhere. The trauma of the event that brought me here faded into insignificance. I took walks along the beach, stopping at the regularly-placed wooden benches to sit and read a while, and to just watch the temperamental ocean.

“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.” 
― Wayne W. Dyer

I sat at a beach bar for a coffee and a group of three Englishmen at the next table invited me into their company by asking me about my Kindle. They were new to Nerja, and asked if I could recommend some good eating places. I mentioned a few restaurants, but assured them they couldn’t really go wrong: I had never had a bad meal here. Knowing I was in town on my own, they invited me to join them for dinner. I thanked them for the invite and graciously declined, happy to just float along in my own little world this week.

The next day, sat on a bench reading, I happened to look up just as two of the men from the day before passed by. “Hey Kindle lady”, they stopped to chat. I realised we had not introduced ourselves by name yesterday, so I introduced myself and held out a hand to shake with John and Mike. “We’re just going for some lunch. If you’re at a loose end, you’re very welcome to join us,” John offered. “That’s very kind of you. Really, I’m fine thank you”.

I continued to sit and focus on all the lovely, kind, friendly people in the world, and in my life. This is the best way to deal with the occasional unkind, unfriendly person, by realising that they are not the ‘norm’, we will bump into them occasionally for whatever reason, but to focus on unkindness will only attract more of that, so to counteract that negative energy, you look for the good in people.

The next day, after a short walk, of long duration with my many stops, I passed by a couple of familiar bars, but there was a big rugby match on the TV’s so I didn’t stop, I headed back to my hotel room. However, something made me stop at my Irish bar, despite the rugby projecting from the big screen on the terrace, and I ordered a pot of tea. I was reading my Kindle, and my attention was drawn to a lady sat at another table. She had a hat beside her on the table and it reminded me of my favourite aunt, a boho, hippie-style lady. After a few minutes, she turned and saw me, and said “What beautiful nails you have”. “Thank you”, I said, and we began chatting. As it turned out, Amanda had been travelling on her own around Spain for six months, and she was a writer/blogger. This connected us further, as it has long been a dream of mine to travel around Spain, and more of Europe. I don’t know how the subject came about so quickly, but she mentioned a couple of people had suggested she read ‘The Power of Now’. “Oh, Eckhart Tolle,” I said. “Yes,” she said, “now I know I must read it. I keep bumping into people who know of it”.

Amanda and I got along famously over the next few days. We had read many of the same or similar books, we held similar beliefs about the powers of the universe, we were on a similar life path. I said wasn’t it funny how I had stopped at the Irish bar even though I really wasn’t interested in the rugby. Amanda said the same: in the several weeks she had been in Nerja she had rarely been to that side of town, and she wasn’t interested in the rugby either. Amanda was going home next week too. It really felt like one of those ‘invisible threads’ I have read of, and have come to know to be true. Our souls really connected.

Amanda introduced me to an Italian restaurant I hadn’t been to before: delicious and a budget-traveller’s dream. We had some serious discussions about how our beliefs had pulled us through some tough times, and we had some right big laughs about the synchronicities and the fun games we had played with the universe and our angels.

I may not have ended up where I expected to be but I was in exactly the best place where I needed to be. I had not only made peace with where I was and how I had landed there, but I had made the conscious decision to attract the good world I wanted to see, and so it was.

“Loving people live in a loving world. Hostile people live in a hostile world. Same world.”
Wayne W. Dyer

Read – When things go wrong … Part 1 and Part 2

When things go wrong … (part 3)

No News Is Good News

No News Is Good News

no news is good news, turn off the news, negative messages, positive thinkingDid you watch the news on television today? Did you hear it on the radio? Did you happen to listen to your favourite talk radio show today? Watch a movie? A soap opera? A ‘reality’ TV show? Read a celebrity gossip magazine? Do you feel good because of it?

What effect do these things have on us in our daily lives? Do they invoke a positive mental attitude? Probably not. The problem with the media in most formats today is that it is comprised of every negative image and idea that exists and is yet to exist.

Even a lot of the comedy shows have a negative message. Why is this?

How do we balance these negative messages in our lives? How do we counter the crap that is being fed to us? Do we immerse ourselves in motivational books and tapes? If not, maybe we should.

The healthy function of our minds is dependent upon input. If the only, or majority, input that we have is negative, our output can tend to be negative as well. Garbage in, garbage out. My grandmother used to warn me that the type of people that I surrounded myself with is the type of person I would become. She was right to a great degree. It is also true that the type of materials to which we expose our minds is the type of thinking that we will practice in our daily lives. Perhaps you question that logic, but let me go on.

When the mainstream media has been confronted in the past about the content of their shows, they claim that just because you watch a violent film, you won’t become violent. This may be true, but as you continuously immerse yourself in violent content, you begin to become numb to the violence itself. You also absorb messages about living in a fearful world.

Such as that is, the more negative the constant input in your life, the harder it becomes to be positive or think positive thoughts. As a creative individual, I often need a bit of inspiration in my daily life. To get this inspiration, I look at other writers work. After a while I am influenced by what I have seen to create my own work.

The same can be said for a positive attitude. If we reach a point in our day when we feel like we can’t go on with our work, sometimes all we need is a bit of inspiration to get back on track. Often this inspiration gives us that “a-ha” moment that we need to get back on the rails.

Now I am not saying that you should have a constant diet of positive attitude books and CD’s. There are other things that can reinforce us in our daily tasks. Aside from personal development materials, there is also the development of our business or our skills. This type of information can be found in books, magazines, on cd, dvd, cassette tapes or the internet.

Often when we learn more about our work and how to do it better, we are more successful at performing necessary tasks. This success in itself is empowering and can lead to a more positive attitude.

I switched off my television several months ago, and it has only been switched on rarely, maybe three times in as many months, if I have heard about a nature or science documentary that sounds interesting to watch. Instead of watching TV, I have read lots of books, worked on my blog and other writing projects, completed internet video courses on promotion and marketing, self-publishing, and setting up a YouTube channel. I have listened to lots of webinars about natural health and wellbeing, and if I have wanted some light entertainment, I have found funny or uplifting films to watch online. I don’t even miss watching TV anymore (I think I shall see about cancelling my TV license and saving some money into the bargain).

In actual fact, during this period of restricting the invitation of negativity into my life, I have found that I have become more sensitive to it when it happens, like it insults my brain and my soul. I would catch snippets of the news on the radio in my car, and would feel the impact on my energy level so much that I have learned to quickly hit the radio knob to OFF when the news comes on, and so far I know I have not missed anything that I really needed to know, nothing that has had any direct influence on my life.

It doesn’t have to be all work and mental stimulation. Stopping watching TV allows you more time to engage in outside activities, like walks in nature, exercise or social groups. When you become more aware of, and focus on and appreciate the beauty and positivity all around you, which was there all the time, you just didn’t notice it, it becomes easier to practise positive thinking.

As we go through our day we should try to be aware of the influences that our surroundings are having on us. We should be careful to monitor the types of input that we are getting and balance it with as much positive material as possible. In doing this not only can we feel better about ourselves and our world, but we will also be more productive and feel happier at the same time.

No News Is Good News

The ABC game for adults

The ABC game for adults

This is just so simple, even an adult can play it 😀

We most often think of this as a children’s game, using it simply to teach the alphabet. But it’s a really good tool adults can use too, and of course please play it with your children; the earlier they can learn this fun version, the happier life they will have.

This game can move you from a ‘bleurgh’ frame of mind to a more positive one, an improved energy vibration, really quickly. Think of the most good-feeling words you can beginning with each letter of the alphabet, and really focus on the word and how it feeeeeeeels in your body. According to Abraham-Hicks, what you focus on for 68 seconds is on it’s way to you, and what can be better than the feeling of pure positive emotion.

abcA – Awesome
B – Bliss
C – Creative
D – Delicious
E – Ease
F – Fun
G – Glorious
H – Heavenly
I – Inspiring
J – Juicy
K – Kisses
L – Laughing
M – Magical
N – Nourishing
O – Ooooodles
P – Playful
Q – Quiet
R – Relief
S – Soothing
T – Tantalising
U – Uplifting
V – Vortex (this one makes most sense to Abraham-Hicks fans)
W – Wonderful
X – EXciting (you may have to cheat with this one. it’s allowed)
Y – Yummy
Z – Zesty

You don’t have to think of just one word. You can stay on each letter for as long as you are coming up with words that move you into your good-feeling place. You can play it with family and friends. A great place to play it is if you’re stuck in traffic, as I always find if I stop myself getting frustrated and begin to think good thoughts, it’s amazing how quickly the traffic clears.

If you play it when you’re already feeling good, it helps you really milk that good feeling and adds momentum to the manifestation of amazing events.

You don’t even have to use real words if you prefer to make up your own, as long as they feel good and get you laughing. I played this game with my friend Heather, who uses gobbledygook as a way to distract her mind from negative thoughts, and for Q she came up with ‘Quiddly diddly quoromungous quantitude’. The important thing is to have FUN 😀

Here’s Abraham-Hicks’ description of the ABC game:

Life is like an onion, you gotta peel back the layers

Life is like an onion

Life is like an onion, peel back the layers, subconsciousWhen you decide that you are not satisfied with your life as it is, and resolve that you want to change it, the most important part of changing your life lies in changing your thoughts, which have created your beliefs, and thus influence your actions.

You have to free yourself from the mental bondage which is holding you where are you.

Positive thinking and affirmation will go a long way towards changing your mindset, but for some it just doesn’t feel ‘true’, and when that happens you create resistance. It’s no good affirming to yourself ‘I am abundant in all areas of my life’ if your head is saying ‘Well that’s bullshit!’.

So what causes your head to resist positive affirmation? The memories that have stored themselves in the layers of your subconscious. So why would your subconscious do this to you? Surely it should help you and work for your benefit? Well, it actually believes it is doing just that. It tries to stop you from being hurt or disappointed again.

You can positively affirm all you like. It’s a great start. But it took time to develop your current mindset, and to change or improve it could take a long time too, because your subconscious will try to keep protecting you and nag you to do what it’s always done.

A bit like having a stain on your carpet: you could cover it with a rug or a plant pot. But you will always know the stain is there, and every so often you will trip up on the rug or the plant pot. Using this analogy, you can’t go out and buy a new carpet (buy a new mind). The only way to cure the problem is to get that stain removed, and it may take a lot of scrubbing.

Like an onion, our subconscious has created layers. Something happened when we were a child to make us have a reactive emotion. Sometime later another incident happens that reinforces that feeling. We accept it as the way we are. We come to believe that thought, feeling, emotion is ‘normal’ for us.

The layers build as we get older, and the thoughts, beliefs and resulting actions shape our lives. They become part of our substance. Then by accepting the thoughts as true, we attract further evidence to support the belief; thoughts like ‘That always happens to me’, ‘I’m just unlucky’, ‘I always get hurt’.

Life IS abundant. It is only our resistance to that belief that pushes abundance away.

To truly heal your subconscious, involves doing some self-inquiry as to why you might think a thought.

Think of the most recent incident that caused a thought. For instance, you didn’t get a promotion at work or you lost your job. Your first thoughts may be, ‘I’m not good enough’, or ‘They didn’t appreciate me, even though I worked really hard’.

Then look for more instances where you might have had that same thought. It could be something like you having cooked a new recipe up, and your partner saying ‘Yeah it was OK’, or ‘I’m not really keen on that (ingredient), or not offering any positive feedback. Or maybe you’ve made a mistake with something and you thought ‘It’s no good, I’m just not good enough. I’ve failed’.

You need to really peel back the layers. Go back as far as you can. As with peeling an onion, there will be tears. It will be painful. You may fight with your subconscious much of the way. It’s trying to protect you. It will bury the thoughts even deeper. It doesn’t want you to feel hurt.

You may find it takes you back to a very young age, probably before the age of seven, which is when most of our downloading and programming took place, as our brain was working in theta brainwave state (the state used for learning, and also for hypnosis), so we soaked it all up like a sponge. It could have been something we may consider as relatively harmless, e.g. you draw a lovely picture for mum, she’s busy on the phone, or cooking dinner, or just generally tired from ‘being mum’ all day. She says “Not now, can’t you see I’m busy/tired”. To a child, this can be programmed as ‘I’m not important’, ‘I did something nice, and she doesn’t even want it’. Perhaps you did something naughty as a child, or were mistaken for being naughty (as many ‘normal’ children do!), and were sent to your room with words like, ‘You’re not having dessert, you don’t deserve it’.

Then comes the important bit: you need to practise forgiveness on every aspect you uncover. You need to peel and heal every layer.

A wonderful technique for this is called ‘ho’oponopono’. It is an ancient Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness.

It consists of 4 statements:

  • I love you.
  • I’m sorry.
  • Please forgive me.
  • Thank you.

On every aspect you uncover, say these like a mantra. Even better if you can just use them as a meditation. Relax with some soothing music and repeat the mantra over and over. You don’t have to always be thinking of something or someone specifically, although it is powerful if you do. You can address the mantra to another person, to yourself, to your younger self/child. You are addressing this more to your own subconscious, letting it know it is safe to release those thoughts now.

Find ho’oponopono manuals at Amazon.com

Find ho’oponopono manuals at Amazon.co.uk

My personal favourites are Cosmic Ordering: The Next Step by Barbel Mohr and anything by Dr Joe Vitale.

Life is like an onion

How to Visualize the Things You Want

visualizationHow can you visualize the goals that you have? There are techniques that move you deeper into your own inner power to see with greater clarity what you want to create.

Visualization is by far one of the most powerful tools for good setting and attracting what you want. Yet few people know how to properly visualize. With the right technique you can begin to see outstanding results in successfully attracting what you want, if you fully apply what you learn.

Firstly, you are visualizing all the time. You may not be aware of it but you are always conjuring up images in your mind. When you are speaking on the telephone to someone you are usually trying to see in your mind what they are telling you. You also visualize when you are deep in thought. When you are worrying about paying your debt or worrying about the way you would really like to live your life you are also visualizing. However, worrying is negatively directed visualization, as you are focusing more on lack.

The trick is to use that creative force to actually attract the things you want. This is where many people go terribly wrong.

Here is a great test to help you understand the most effective way to visualize. Think of the last time you were deep in thought. Now try to remember what that felt like. If you can recall that time, you will notice that you were deep inside of yourself. You were unaware of anyone or anything and as you were allowing yourself to visualize you could feel clearly that you were having the experience as if it were real. That is the power of visualization.

When people ask all the time, “How do I visualize the things I want?”, I tell them the same way you visualize the things that you don’t want. You see when you are feeling anxious and fearful you lock yourself away in your inner mind with those images. You lose sight of other possibilities and if it is something that happened to you, then you recreate it in its full detail with all your emotions all over again.

Try to immerse yourself with full emotions when you are trying to create the things you want. Many thoughts may come to distract you but if you will redirect your mind to what you do want your mind will be trained to hold that thought.

There are many tools and techniques that can greatly empower your ability to visualize if you really have a hard time. You can add extreme magnetism to any mental image you want to create as long as you apply the right technique.

My favourite technique is to create a vision board, and I have had much success with mine. I collect pictures of things I would like to achieve and attach them to a physical board, or copy and paste digital images onto a document then print it out to stick on my wall, somewhere I will see it often. Another option is to store images in a folder on the computer and set the screensaver to rotate the images whenever I am not using the computer. Then get into the place of ‘feeling’ how lovely life is when my visions have materialised.

UPDATE: Within a few short hours of my posting this, a lovely neighbour has knocked on my door and given me a car battery charger, as they know I have had some difficulty starting my car for a few weeks and they just ‘happened’ to find a spare one 😀

How to get a Free Holiday

Who would love a holiday? How amazing would it be if the holiday is FREE?

Almost 2 years ago, I won a national TV competition which was a holiday in Benidorm for 4 people, full board, with tickets to events and some cash. You might think this was lucky. However, I know I consciously attracted the manifestation, as a week before this happened I learned I was going to be getting some money back I had been owed for about 18 months. I used to love going on holiday 3 or 4 times a year to Spain, but having been unable to work through ill-health for a few years, I had been unable to afford to go. So when I knew this money was coming to me, but before it actually arrived into my bank account, I had the really exciting thought, and corresponding exciting feeling in my stomach of “I’m going to Spain, I’m going to Spain”. A week later my telephone rang with the amazing news that I had won this competition. And an awesome holiday it was too, I was able to take 3 close family members and we had an amazing time.

Still some may think it could be a fluke, surely the test would be – can this be recreated?

Well, in August 2012, I received an email from a friend, I’ll call her AB. AB was feeling down, in her words “I am so down and pissed off at everyone and everything. I cant get out of it, I try with the positive thinking but my dark thoughts just take over, How can I get myself out of it, any ideas?”.

I called AB on the phone for a chat. Like myself, AB was unable to work due to long-term ill-health, and was struggling financially on a day-to-day basis, and said she was desperate for a holiday but how could she afford one when she couldn’t even afford to pay her bills?

I said to AB there was nothing she could do about the finances right now, today, so the best thing she could do would be to do something she really enjoyed, like take her dad’s dog for a walk on the beach, anything she enjoyed that would take her mind off problems and make her feel happy, as this would raise her energy vibration.

Another piece of advice was to realise that she had these difficulties, but that she could focus on and be grateful for the general positive things in her life, that she had a comfortable home, her sons are safe, happy and healthy, etc. Apart from her having difficulties finding a bungalow that she knew she now needed to move to, she could recognise she had a lot to be thankful for.

Visualisation picture
Visualisation picture

Like myself, AB needs to rest regularly during the day, so I then suggested as she had her relaxation session, play some nice relaxing music and imagine being on a lovely holiday, lying on the beach, feeling the sun on her face and the sand between her toes. Even go online and find some lovely photos to download of where she would like to be on holiday. “That’s all very well doing that,” she said, “but where am I ever going to find the money for it?”. “Hey,” I said, “who says you need money? After all, look at that amazing holiday I’ve just been on that I won for free!”.

Actual holiday resort
Actual holiday resort

Encouraged, AB and I ended our conversation, both of us feeling very energised and not at all down or depressed by focusing on lack of resources.

In September, just over 4 weeks later, I received an email from AB, thanking me again for our uplifting chat and encouragement, and letting me know that since then, she had won 3 small prizes in competitions she had entered, but also that a friend of hers had turned up and announced they would like to pay for her to go with them on holiday to Gran Canaria for 2 weeks All Inclusive, and she had not even discussed her need for a holiday with them! She then sent me a document with 4 pictures on it, one picture was the one she had downloaded of her lovely holiday scenery, the other three were of the resort she was actually going to. I asked which was the one she had envisioned. She said I had to guess. We laughed as I actually guessed the wrong one, they all looked like the exact same place! Have a look at the 2 pictures above, couldn’t they be the same place, if taken from different angles?

AB had signed off her email saying “I have been managing with money and all in all am much happier and at peace with myself and the world. I am so grateful you are in my life, thank you.”

AB went on her holiday in November, which she really enjoyed and appreciated. On her return, she opened her mail to discover she had also won £500 in shopping vouchers in a competition, just in time to help her buy the Christmas presents she wanted to buy for her family.

Tomorrow: How AB manifested her dream bungalow …

Count Your Chickens Before They’ve Hatched

count chickensAt some stage in your life, you’ve probably been told not to count your chickens before they have hatched. You were probably told to not get your hopes up and to not expect too much – just in case you might be disappointed. For most of us this, or some variation of it, was told to us over and over again by well-meaning, but ill-informed people. From an early age the idea of staying in an emotional “safe zone” was instilled in most of us until it eventually became belief systems that now control our behaviours.

We live in a culture were the predominant psychology is based in fear. The fear of loss drives and motivates most people’s decisions and behaviours. From this mindset the subconscious invented mechanisms to protect itself and a saying like “don’t count your chickens before they’ve hatched” is but only one illustration of how the culture prepares and “grooms” us from an early age to settle for the lowest denominator. “Go for the lowest and easiest to make sure that you at least get something.” “Don’t expect too much, just in case you don’t get anything at all.” From this mindset we lose all our power; the power that is born in the belief that we are indeed worthy of all the success and all the abundance that we can possibly dream of.

Expectation is one of the most powerful resources that you possess. An intense anticipation can transform possibility into reality. One of the biggest reasons why most people never get to live their dreams is because they lack the motivation to follow their dreams. The real purpose of a goal is to act like a directional compass that guides your life in a specific direction. A strong and exciting goal has the power to motivate and inspire you. When you fuel this goal with expectation you set in motion an unstoppable force that will give you that internal drive that will enable you to create virtually anything you desire. When you count your chickens before they’ve hatched you create a sense of excitement and enthusiasm that has immense power to motivate you. Success and achievement are rarely the result of your ability but rather the product of your motivation; of your ability to consistently take action on your dreams and goals.

Expectation is not the same as hope. Most people hope that one day they will get what they really want or that one day they will get lucky and all their dreams will come true. Hoping is nothing but a weak prayer. Hoping always includes success and failure while expectation is solely fixed on one single outcome. When you count your chickens before they’ve hatched you nurture your expectation; you make it stronger and most importantly, you make it real. It is a fixing of purpose where no-one or no-thing can throw you off course. When you create that intense feeling of expectation you not only imagine having what you want but you start to create the feeling of already having it.

Whatever you expect with certainty will become your own self-fulfilling prophecy. We all long for certainty on some level. For most people certainty comes from seeing and experiencing things before they “believe” it. This is why they keep re-creating and experiencing the same old things over and over again. When you use your mind, your emotions and your imagination to create the certainty within you, then anything is possible. Expectation goes beyond hoping. You want to be like the little kid on Christmas who knows that he’s getting a new bike, but he has to wait until Christmas morning before he can actually feel and touch it.

Have you ever ordered something really exciting and then had to wait for it in the post? You knew you were going to get it and you anxiously await the moment of delivery. You anticipate the moment where the image in your mind’s eye becomes real and where you can touch it, even though the imaginary experience felt just as real. This is what expectation really is. It is getting excited in advance. It is feeling the feelings in advance. It is the most powerful motivator there is. Expectation, fuelled by emotion, acts like a vacuum within you. It is like a thirst that forms a burning desire that you will do anything to fulfil. This is when your “should’s” become “musts” and when it is a must you will get it.

With expectation you can start to transform your perception of life, especially your life. Because you no longer hope for what you want, you expect it to come along any second. There are no more doubts and no more hoping. There is only a knowing and a feeling of certainty. When you know something you can stop doubting and questioning. Now, every situation becomes an opportunity to receive your goal. Every person becomes a player in the process and every problem becomes a stepping stone towards the realization of your dreams. You have that certainty that the outcome is resolved and that you are merely in the process; waiting for “Christmas morning” to come.

You have to let go of the mentality that is based on the fear of loss; the mentality that is grounded in the belief that you are not worthy of having it all. Let go of the beliefs that you might be disappointed when you give it your all and it doesn’t work out. All they do is to lock you up in a world where you never even “try” just because you might not make it. If anything, you want to overestimate your abilities. Overestimate your capability. When you feel like you are running up a hill that is too steep, don’t turn back and run down hill. Instead, up the prize for getting to the top. Make the reward more compelling and you will find within yourself a strength that was previously unavailable. This is how you access your real resources, those resources that lie asleep within you waiting to be called upon. Nothing of significant value has ever been created without enthusiasm.

Do whatever it takes to “count” your chickens; whatever it takes to create the feeling of already having it. If you have goals you need to start living them and the way you do that is to build your expectation. Do whatever it takes to create the feeling of already having it. Make it real. The legendary musician, Jackson Browne once said that whenever he gets nominated for an award he always expects to win, even when he is the underdog. He always prepares a victory speech. What is your victory speech? How can you prepare for what you desire most from life? What can you do to make it real? Most people plan to fail by never expecting to succeed. Remember that your results will rarely exceed your expectations.

Jim Carrey, when he was broke and poor, would go and sit looking at the Hollywood sign. He wrote himself a cheque postdated 3-5 years ahead, for the sum of $10 million for ‘acting services rendered’, and just before that time expired he was offered $10 million for his role in Dumb and Dumber.

Free Book – Cheerfulness as a Life Power

Woman jumpingCheerfulness as a Life Power – Orison Swett Marden

What a lovely little book. I was almost sad to get to the end of it, then in the spirit of the book, cheered up and realised it’s short enough for me to read over and over again. It’s written in such simple language, you can hardly believe it was written over 100 years ago when writing was often quite long-winded. It is as relevant today as it was when written. Simple, to-the-point, and beautiful.

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Cheerfulness as a Life Power – Amazon.co.uk

Cheerfulness as a Life Power – Amazon.com