Your Spiritual Support System

Your Spiritual Support System

spiritual support, support system, spiritual support system, hay houseYou’ve got the power to feel vibrant, healthy and happy!

You don’t have to go your journey alone.

No matter how strong you are, every once in a while, you need someone to lean on. And when it comes to making real shifts in your life…sometimes it feels like you need more than a person, you need a village of support to help you stay on track.

Surrounding yourself with people who know how you feel because they are on the same path is one of the best ways to reach and maintain any goal you have. A Hay House author, Gabrielle Bernstein, suggests in Miracles Now, “Find your spiritual community. Open your mind, spirit and social media stream to receive a spiritual running buddy of your own.”

You can connect with others for support and continue to share your personal journey long after the Summit ends. When you join this 10 day online webinar, you gain instant access to other people, just like you, who want to connect, share and improve all areas of their lives – a spiritual community you can tap into anytime for what you need most to stay on track.

Hay House truly wants you to feel great about the journey in discovering new ideas and developing new tools while also connecting with new friends along the way who can offer support and encouragement when you need it most. Plus, this community gives you a chance to be a spiritual running buddy for others as well, which always feels great!

And you don’t have to absorb or listen to every single lesson! Another great tip from Gabrielle’s book, Miracles Now, is when it comes to setting goals or making changes in your life, “Keep it simple. Go Slow. Be the Happy Learner.” Simply choose one main area to focus on and make that change consistent over the next 10 days. Then, when you feel ready, you can build on the small successes over time and create radical shifts that bring daily peace and happiness to your life. Be gentle with yourself when you falter and pat yourself on the back when you succeed – and most importantly, share what you learn with others!

gabrielle bernstein, meditation, spiritual supportWhat you’ll learn during the World Summit:

• Meditation for modern times
• Practical tips for attracting abundance and prosperity
• Shed pounds WITHOUT dieting
• New scientific discoveries in the mind/body connection
• Reveal your true purpose using The Passion Test

Join the Hay House World Summit and Facebook Community to feel:

• Supported, more hopeful and more able to take control of your life and your health.
• More in touch with your intuition, happier, and more motivated to make food and thought changes to enhance your sense of well-being and unlock your inner vibrancy. And you’ll feel more connected to others sharing in the same journey.
• Inspired, capable, and deserving to pursue what matters most to you. You’ll feel this way because you’ll learn to listen to your inner guidance system and how to call forth your guardian angels.
• A sense of freedom and weightlessness that will be completely new to you ? you’ll see how your new positive thoughts and daily habits bring more good into your life each and every day. Your mind will be open to new possibilities for making money, finding a compatible partner, and giving yourself permission to be, do and have what you really want.

We’re all about sharing the love! So, if you know anyone who needs a little lift and community support, we encourage you to share the Hay House World Summit!
Join us for 10 days to feel your way to more love, more joy and more abundant energy!

Keep learning for years to come!

Due to the overwhelming response to last year’s World Summit packages, Hay House is offering similar packages for this year’s Summit, but with even MORE GREAT CONTENT and BETTER BONUSES!

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You won’t believe the huge bonuses they’re throwing in this year with the Change Your Life package!

Here’s what people said about last year’s World Summit:

“It made me really understand my journey and what I was doing and the purpose of it. It really explained a lot for me and gave me so much encouragement… that I’m on the right track.” —Arlene

“This was amazing. So many practical tools that can help me connect with my intuition on a deeper level for the answers I seek. It came just at the right time and reminded me to listen to my gut.” —Orly

“Best talk I have heard out of the 25 years I have listened so far. This is info everyone needs to know. Life saving and life enhancing! Thank you.” —Felice

“Wonderful stuff coming from deep insight and compassion. Material to mull over for months and years to come. Thank you for opening these doors for us.” —Charlaine

“There were so many messages in the interview with Doreen Virtue that spoke so clearly to me. It touched many aspects in my life that are occurring in this present moment. I felt like I was meant to listen to this. I can’t even begin to describe the clarity this one interview has brought to my life.” —Monique

“Wow! This interview was so inspiring. I love Iyanla’s raw truth. I also loved her explanation that we are constantly tested at the level we need to learn, because we didn’t get it again!! Thank you so very much!” —Lyn

“I shed a few tears, laughed and experienced a real ‘ah ha’ moment that will help me step forward in life. THANK YOU.” —Marnie

“Loved it. It was really nice learning about the science of my body and helping me learn how to best treat it.” —Charlotte on Donna Gates interview

“First of all I thank Hay House for bringing such beautiful souls together. You have actually created a paradise of angels who are so loving, caring and willing to share their knowledge through this forum. God Bless!” —Sheetal

“I now know what I need to practice and focus on. Just brilliant.” —Eternal A.

“I am in awe of this summit and amazed at what I’ve learned and how to see a different view. There are so many wonderful people from Hay House who have been inspiring and no matter where you are on your journey, there is always something new to learn.” —Lucinda

“I experienced tears of OMG, we can choose and BE living here. Nothing will remain the same for me; it just gets better! And I thank you for that awakening.” —Anne

Your Spiritual Support System

Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It

Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It

In this speech, Kamal Ravikant shares some wisdom on why self-love is really what truly matters in life. He then goes on to talk about the importance of truly loving yourself.

This is a raw, honest, 20-minute video summary of how a highly successful entrepreneur and investor was forced to re-evaluate his life. Kamal beautifully connects the left-brained world of Silicon Valley, with the world of the heart.

love yourself, Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It, kamal ravikantIn his book, Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It, Kamal talks about how not loving yourself causes crippling depression, even if the outside world sees someone successful. Kamal goes on to teach how to reconnect with your authentic self, realising what is truly important in life, and how being true to yourself can bring you back to unbreakable success.

Find Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It at Amazon.com and Amazon.co.uk

Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It

3 Steps for Having Money Conversations With Your Partner

3 Steps for Having Money Conversations With Your Partner

Money Conversations With Your Partner, money talksIt starts a week from today!

Join us for our 9-day The Art of Love Relationship Series, starting next Tuesday, April 1st!

Register for this FREE event HERE

Gina DeVee, one of the 55 love and relationship experts featured in The Art of Love Relationship Series, will be speaking on a panel about “Overcoming Money Madness: The Secrets To Navigating Rough Financial Waters With Ease.” Gina recommends following these 3 steps when having conversations about money with your partner:

“Step one is related to how we can sometimes be polarized in our thinking in society, where something needs to be either one or the other—and I’m a big fan of taking a stand for the ‘and.’ So for example, if one member of the couple wants to save and the other wants to take a trip to Italy, really exploring first and foremost how might both be possible? How can you create or manifest the funds to do what both people desire?

My second step is to be really curious in love. Relationships are teachers. So if your partner says, ‘I really think that we should buy this house,’ or ‘I really think that we should pad our nest egg,’ rather than react because you have the opposite viewpoint, really be curious about your partner, and discover why that is important to him or her, and see what else you can learn and fall more deeply in love with that person for, and how it can expand your own viewpoint.

And then the third step that really requires personal responsibility is to know thyself. Most of us are just operating out of money rules that were passed down to us versus really investigating for ourselves what is true for us. So if one person thinks, ‘Oh, I must buy a house,’ well, is that true for you and is that really part of your own value system, or did your parents tell you you were throwing money away if you were renting? So really knowing what your own truth is, is critical.” —Gina DeVee

Join Gina and all 55 of the world’s most respected love and relationship experts during our 3rd annual FREE 9-day The Art of Love Relationship Series. Starting on Tuesday, April 1st, you will learn the latest insights about how to have a more connected, satisfying relationship—and deeper love—than you ever thought possible.

Register for the free event here, and watch 3 pre-event bonus interviews with Deepak Chopra, Dr Jenn Berman and Michael Bernard Beckwith

3 Steps for Having Money Conversations With Your Partner

Getting What You’ve Been Craving In The Bedroom

Getting What You’ve Been Craving In The Bedroom: How To Make Your Sex Life More Intimate Than It’s Ever Been

Dr. Jenn Berman

Getting What You’ve Been Craving In The Bedroom: How To Make Your Sex Life More Intimate Than It’s Ever BeenDr. Jenn Berman is a licensed psychotherapist in private practice in Los Angeles. She is the host and lead therapist on VH1′s Couple’s Therapy where she does intensive therapy with celebrity couples. She has appeared as a psychological expert on hundreds of television shows including The Oprah Winfrey ShowThe Today ShowThe Early Show, and HLN.

Watch Dr Jenn Berman and Arielle Ford Now – at absolutely no charge

Open communication about sex is what makes sex better. But navigating those conversations can be really tricky business. Discover how to comfortably and effectively communicate with your partner about sex — and then reap the rewards!

In the main event webinar you’ll also learn:

  • The #1 reason a partner withholds sex – and what to do if that’s happening to you
  • Where, when and how to bring up the subject of sex
  • How to ask for what you want – and get it!
  • Important do’s and don’ts for flirting with your partner
  • How to break the news that you’ve been faking – and end up (actually) satisfied!
  • The #1 way to give suggestions so your partner wants to take them
  • Top 4 reasons – especially women – lose their libido (and how to get it back)
  • Why surrendering could be the sexiest thing you do

Watch the short video with Dr Jenn and Arielle here!

This video is just a small preview of a truly remarkable, free online event Arielle is hosting for the third consecutive year: The Art of Love Relationship Series set to kick off on April 1st, 2014. Starting with the LIVE kick-off on April 1st, and for 9 more powerful days, you’ll hear from over 50 of the world’s most respected love and relationship experts . . .Art of Love Relationship Series 2014

They’ll be sharing the latest insights about how to have a more connected, satisfying relationship—and deeper love—than you ever thought possible.

(Mark your calendar now so you don’t miss it!)

Faculty for the series includes Dr. John Gray, Harville Hendrix, Alison Armstrong, Dr. Gay Hendricks, Dr. Katie Hendricks, Neale Donald Walsch, Katherine Woodward Thomas, Claire Zammit, Lisa Nichols, Arielle Ford, and many others.

Dr Jenn Berman will also be participating in Seminar 4: Becoming Partners In Parenting: How to Parent As A Team Even When You Disagree alongside Jacqueline Green and Dr. Laura Markham.

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Getting What You’ve Been Craving In The Bedroom: How To Make Your Sex Life More Intimate Than It’s Ever Been

The Art of Love – Relationship Series 2014

The Art of Love – Relationship Series 2014

Art of Love Relationship Series 2014I have a brand new, never-before-seen video to share with you!
It features world-renowned mind-body physician and New York Times #1 bestselling author Deepak Chopra and bestselling love and relationship author Arielle Ford.

In this short video, Deepak shares powerful, fast-working tips that will not only help you create a whole new level of connection and intimacy with your partner than you ever imagined possible . . .

They will also help you to identify and break unconscious habits that stand in the way of true intimacy. And if you’re not in a relationship right now but are hoping to be someday soon, these insights will help you experience the deeper levels of intimacy you’ve always wished were possible when that happens.

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Most of us want to feel truly seen, heard and understood by our partner, and to experience the kind of close connection we know we deserve. But in our modern world, we’re so busy and distracted that often there just doesn’t seem to be enough quality time available to spend with our partners to begin with . . . In this short video:

“The 4 Simple Steps To Deeper Connection:  How to Overcome the Challenges of a Modern  Relationship and Find the Intimacy You Crave”

Deepak shares techniques you can use right away to overcome those challenges by taking better advantage of the time you do have together to create more closeness and intimacy in your relationship!

Watch the short video with Deepak and Arielle here!

Deepak and Arielle dive right in, sharing the techniques you can use to build more connection in your relationship! In this video, you’ll discover . . .

  • 3 daily habits that will increase intimacy

  • A simple mindset shift that will create the conditions that cultivate love instead of smothering it or pushing it away

  • The 4-step process that will help you give up your need to control and instead allow you to get closer

  • How to find and maintain a state of “allowing” so that love flows to and from you freely

Access the Deepak Chopra and Arielle Ford video Now

This video is just a small preview of a truly remarkable, free online event Arielle is hosting for the third consecutive year: The Art of Love Relationship Series set to kick off on April 1st, 2014. Starting with the LIVE kick-off on April 1st, and for 9 more powerful days, you’ll hear from over 50 of the world’s most respected love and relationship experts . . . Art of Love Relationship Series 2014

They’ll be sharing the latest insights about how to have a more connected, satisfying relationship—and deeper love—than you ever thought possible. (Mark your calendar now so you don’t miss it!)

Faculty for the series includes Dr. John Gray, Harville Hendrix, Alison Armstrong, Dr. Gay Hendricks, Dr. Katie Hendricks, Neale Donald Walsch, Katherine Woodward Thomas, Claire Zammit, Lisa Nichols, Arielle Ford, and many others.

Watch the Video & Register for the Event at No Charge

Here are just a few of the enthusiastic responses Arielle has received from people who have attended The Art of Love Relationship Series in the past:

“I’ve experienced a shift of consciousness. Instead of empty and lonely and longing for love, I feel full, beautiful, and ‘in love’ with a sense of expectancy and readiness for this love relationship about to manifest!” —Nia

“This program has taught me so much about myself and my perception of love. I have been awakened and forever changed by my new knowledge. All the questions I’ve had have all been closed. This is the big piece of the puzzle that has been missing for me my entire life!” —Heather

“I was floundering in a sea of failed relationships, but now I look to the future with hopeful expectation!” —Al

“I now feel a sense of healing and opening of my heart so I can love and be loved. I highly recommend The Art of Love for anyone searching for a soulful connection and anyone who wants to grow the existing love connection.” —Karen

Join me, and together we’ll take in everything this brand new series has to offer!

P.S. Remember, you’ll get instant access to the video with bestselling authors Deepak Chopra and Arielle Ford sharing the latest research and advice on how to create a more intimate and connected relationship than you ever thought possible!

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The Art of Love

The problem is not the problem…

The problem is not the problem…

problem, solution, attitude, problem-solvingProblems are a part of life. They have accompanied us since birth, and will continue to do so until the twilight of our lives. But this is no reason to get upset. In fact, the thought that problems happen to absolutely everyone should come as a welcome relief.

Problems are not the result of being a bad or good person. They happen to good and bad people alike. Sometimes, even despite our best judgements and careful planning, challenges still occur in the most unexpected circumstances.

It can be easy to look around and think other people do not have problems. This is not true; they have just mastered the art of dealing with them effectively and moving more quickly towards the solution. They often recognise there are opportunities to be realised.

“The problem is not the problem. The problem is your attitude about the problem. Do you understand?”
Captain Jack Sparrow

Here are some tips to conquer your problems:

Trace the root of the problem.

The best way to start finding a solution to a problem is to try to figure out how the problem started in the first place. If you find yourself lost in the middle of the road, the chances are that you took a wrong turn somewhere along the way. This is why you need to go back, retrace your steps, and discover where you have gone wrong. This way you would be able to figure out which way you should go, which roads to avoid, and how to get there.

From this, you will learn how to make more effective decisions in the future.

Don’t sweat the small stuff.

Little problems are best dealt with by giving them a shrug of the shoulder. Having a bad hair day or breaking a nail is not reason enough to break into fits of hysteria. Sure, it is annoying; but get over it! People will be surprised how a little change in their attitude can go a long way in solving their problems.

In fact, a lot of problems people are facing will dissolve if they only change their attitude. Instead of focusing on the negative aspects of their lives, and being so cynical, they should instead try to make the best out of every situation. If you are not satisfied with the situation you are in, you should strive to make some positive changes in your life.

When I find myself worrying about some things, I ask myself, “Will this matter in a year/week/day’s time?”. When I hear back the answer ‘No’, it is much easier to let go of the worry and think “This too shall pass”, making space in my head for a solution to manifest, if one is needed.

Confront your problems.

Not confronting problems can lead to bigger issues. Before problems can be solved, they must first be dealt with. For example, a person pretending not to be sick when he very well knows that he is suffering from an illness will not help him solve this problem. In fact, this will only make the situation much worse, if he refuses to seek out the medical attention that he needs.

The problem with choosing to ignore problems is that they can lead to bigger problems. Some who choose to escape their problems may turn to alcohol, drugs, or other self-destructive behaviours simply because they want to avoid the problems they are encountering. This, in turn, becomes a part of the problem. Instead of finding a solution, they find bigger problems.

Ask for help.

Strength comes in numbers. One of the best ways to quickly solve a problem is to ask for help. This is where friends and family come in. Not only will they be physically able to help you, they can also be a source of emotional help as well. Not only that, they would be able to throw in some ideas that just might be the key to finding the solution to your problem!

Having some problems does not mean that it is the end of the world. It just means that you are going to have to work hard at finding the solutions to your problems. By going through this process, not only will you solve your problems, but you can gain a lot of knowledge and wisdom along the way!

The problem is not the problem…

Desiderata: a manifesto for peace

Desiderata: a manifesto for peace

desiderata, max ehrmann, life manifesto“Desiderata” was written in 1927. However, it was largely unknown during Ehrmann’s lifetime, gaining popularity in the early 1970’s.

Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time. Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals; and everywhere life is full of heroism. Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass. Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul. With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.

Max Ehrmann, “Desiderata”

“Desiderata” was written in 1927. However, it was largely unknown during Ehrmann’s lifetime, gaining popularity in the early 1970’s.

It is my view, since learning about the universal laws, that there was a shift in consciousness around the 1920’s, that led to the emergence of several ‘New Age/New Thought’ writers: Napoleon Hill “Think and Grow Rich”, Florence Scovel Shinn “The Game of Life and How to Play It”, and Neville Goddard “The Law and The Promise” to name but a few. And of course it was around this decade too, that Albert Einstein began his studies and experiments of energy and universal forces.

I don’t find it entirely surprising that ‘Desiderata’ was rediscovered in the early 1970’s, following the next biggest shift in consciousness in the 60’s. We all know about ‘flower power’, the peace movement, and the song words ‘This is the dawning of the Age of Aquarius‘.

Now, just as there was a 40-50 year gap in those major universal shifts, some 40-50 years on from the 60’s, we are experiencing another huge awakening, with the re-emergence of these powerful teachings and more. Indeed, it is believed that this was what the 2012 phenomena was all about. Rather than the apocalyptic or cataclysmic event many thought it was, it was an indicator of the hugely transformative stage we are now entering.

When you look at the 1920’s and 1960’s, what you see is a ‘break from the norm’, people stepping out and saying ‘this is how we want to live’. Look at the difference between the 1920’s and the Victorian values of less than 20 years previously. People became more free in their expression, this was shown in the big changes in fashion (especially for women), music, society.

Again, the colourful 1960’s were hugely different from the quite stuffy 1950’s, with large groups of people asserting their desire for freedom of expression, and wanting major changes in the world culture, and doing it in as peaceful a way as possible.

I see this happening now: people are wanting their freedoms back and are wanting to do it in the free and easy, peaceful way which has been proven to work before. People are becoming more creative, more humanitarian, more meditative, more ecological, wanting a return to a natural world of healthy, local-grown food rather than the factory-produced, chemical-laced crap that has become prevalent and caused a dumbing-down of society. People are realising their own power to create the lives they want.

The world has always progressed and improved after such a transformation. The populace realises how disempowered it has become through fear, control and weakness, then finds the strength to take its power back, and the only way that can happen is creating peace with peace. That is when the world moves forward.

Find Napoleon Hill “Think and Grow Rich” at Amazon.com (Amazon.co.uk)

Find Florence Scovel Shinn “The Game of Life and How to Play It” at Amazon.com (Amazon.co.uk)

Find Neville Goddard “The Law and The Promise at Amazon.com (Amazon.co.uk)

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Desiderata: a manifesto for peace

No News Is Good News

No News Is Good News

no news is good news, turn off the news, negative messages, positive thinkingDid you watch the news on television today? Did you hear it on the radio? Did you happen to listen to your favourite talk radio show today? Watch a movie? A soap opera? A ‘reality’ TV show? Read a celebrity gossip magazine? Do you feel good because of it?

What effect do these things have on us in our daily lives? Do they invoke a positive mental attitude? Probably not. The problem with the media in most formats today is that it is comprised of every negative image and idea that exists and is yet to exist.

Even a lot of the comedy shows have a negative message. Why is this?

How do we balance these negative messages in our lives? How do we counter the crap that is being fed to us? Do we immerse ourselves in motivational books and tapes? If not, maybe we should.

The healthy function of our minds is dependent upon input. If the only, or majority, input that we have is negative, our output can tend to be negative as well. Garbage in, garbage out. My grandmother used to warn me that the type of people that I surrounded myself with is the type of person I would become. She was right to a great degree. It is also true that the type of materials to which we expose our minds is the type of thinking that we will practice in our daily lives. Perhaps you question that logic, but let me go on.

When the mainstream media has been confronted in the past about the content of their shows, they claim that just because you watch a violent film, you won’t become violent. This may be true, but as you continuously immerse yourself in violent content, you begin to become numb to the violence itself. You also absorb messages about living in a fearful world.

Such as that is, the more negative the constant input in your life, the harder it becomes to be positive or think positive thoughts. As a creative individual, I often need a bit of inspiration in my daily life. To get this inspiration, I look at other writers work. After a while I am influenced by what I have seen to create my own work.

The same can be said for a positive attitude. If we reach a point in our day when we feel like we can’t go on with our work, sometimes all we need is a bit of inspiration to get back on track. Often this inspiration gives us that “a-ha” moment that we need to get back on the rails.

Now I am not saying that you should have a constant diet of positive attitude books and CD’s. There are other things that can reinforce us in our daily tasks. Aside from personal development materials, there is also the development of our business or our skills. This type of information can be found in books, magazines, on cd, dvd, cassette tapes or the internet.

Often when we learn more about our work and how to do it better, we are more successful at performing necessary tasks. This success in itself is empowering and can lead to a more positive attitude.

I switched off my television several months ago, and it has only been switched on rarely, maybe three times in as many months, if I have heard about a nature or science documentary that sounds interesting to watch. Instead of watching TV, I have read lots of books, worked on my blog and other writing projects, completed internet video courses on promotion and marketing, self-publishing, and setting up a YouTube channel. I have listened to lots of webinars about natural health and wellbeing, and if I have wanted some light entertainment, I have found funny or uplifting films to watch online. I don’t even miss watching TV anymore (I think I shall see about cancelling my TV license and saving some money into the bargain).

In actual fact, during this period of restricting the invitation of negativity into my life, I have found that I have become more sensitive to it when it happens, like it insults my brain and my soul. I would catch snippets of the news on the radio in my car, and would feel the impact on my energy level so much that I have learned to quickly hit the radio knob to OFF when the news comes on, and so far I know I have not missed anything that I really needed to know, nothing that has had any direct influence on my life.

It doesn’t have to be all work and mental stimulation. Stopping watching TV allows you more time to engage in outside activities, like walks in nature, exercise or social groups. When you become more aware of, and focus on and appreciate the beauty and positivity all around you, which was there all the time, you just didn’t notice it, it becomes easier to practise positive thinking.

As we go through our day we should try to be aware of the influences that our surroundings are having on us. We should be careful to monitor the types of input that we are getting and balance it with as much positive material as possible. In doing this not only can we feel better about ourselves and our world, but we will also be more productive and feel happier at the same time.

No News Is Good News

Beating the Internal Bully

Beating the Internal Bully

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Every day you are talking to yourself in your head.  Often you are doing this unconsciously without really being aware of what you are doing.  Discover how this affects your life and how you can change it.

There are many things that drive people to success, and a key factor is what is known as ‘internal dialogue’. This is the dialogue that is constantly playing inside your head. It’s the voice that starts talking as soon as you do something, meet someone, or think about anything.

In many cases, this voice can be destructive and knock you down, though it is possible to quite easily harness this internal dialogue and use it to propel you to the success you desire and deserve.

You may notice that on occasion the voice is negative in what it says. For example, you see something you really want to buy and it says, “You can’t afford that.” Or you see someone you are really attracted to and the voice says, “They’re way out of your league, they’ll never go for someone like you.”

At it’s worst, and most destructive, it beats you with words like “You’re not good enough”, “You don’t deserve to be happy”, and it is this internal bully saying “You’re too fat” or “Why don’t you look like her/him?”, that causes conditions like eating disorders and depression.

We sometimes speak to ourselves in a way we would not allow others to speak to us. If a friend spoke to us in this way, we would not be friends with them for very long.

Quite obviously, this does nothing to make your life any better. Therefore, why not change the content of the voice? When it says something negative, counter it with a positive suggestion. For example, when the voice says, “You can’t afford that.” Respond mentally in a firm and positive voice with something like, “How can I afford it?” A question that empowers you and propels you into positive action. Or train yourself to positively affirm “I’m perfect just the way I am”, because everybody IS uniquely perfect.

This may take some time, and you may notice initially you do not always catch the voice and correct it. However, keep it up and before you know it, you will have changed the negative dialogue into a positive, empowering one.

You can also change the tone of the voice. What would happen if instead of the usual tone of voice saying, “I can’t afford it” you hear the voice of Homer Simpson, or Donald Duck, or any comic character saying it? You certainly wouldn’t listen to the voice and take it seriously, you would laugh at it and it’s power over you would be broken.

This technique can be extended to helping you motivate yourself to do something. When faced with the washing up, what do you hear in your head? Do you hear a whiny voice saying something like, “You really ought to do the washing up or you’ll get into trouble” or a commanding and scary voice saying, “Wash up NOW!”?

What would happen if the voice were a soft and really seductive voice speaking in your head? The sort of voice that gives you shivers down your back. What if it said something like, “Let’s do the washing up big boy.”? How would that motivate you?

Stephen King, the author, uses this technique with his writing. When he has to write he hears this very loud and powerful voice shouting at him as if through a megaphone saying something like, “WRITE NOW!!!!!” It almost scares him in to writing.

However, you don’t need to scare yourself into action. You can change your internal dialogue to be anything you want; whatever works best for you to motivate you and help you to get where you want to be.

Listen to your internal dialogue and play with changing the tone, volume and tempo to find the type of voice that works best for you. Create a number of different types of voices, one for motivation, one to stop you doing things, one to make you feel loved, one to make you feel happy and so on.

Mastering your internal dialogue is a major key in mastering your life.

Beating the Internal Bully 

Just choose to let go …

Just choose to let go …

Just choose to let go ..., release fear, release judgments

She let go.

Without a thought or a word, she let go.

She let go of the fear.

She let go of the judgments.

She let go of the confluence of opinions swarming around her head.

She let go of the committee of indecision within her.

She let go of all the ‘right’ reasons.

Wholly and completely, without hesitation or worry, she just let go.

She didn’t ask anyone for advice.

She didn’t read a book on how to let go.

She didn’t search the scriptures.

She just let go.

She let go of all of the memories that held her back.

She let go of all of the anxiety that kept her from moving forward.

She let go of the planning and all of the calculations about how to do it just right.

She didn’t promise to let go.

She didn’t journal about it.

She didn’t write the projected date in her Day-Timer.

She made no public announcement and put no ad in the paper.

She didn’t check the weather report or read her daily horoscope.

She just let go.

She didn’t analyze whether she should let go.

She didn’t call her friends to discuss the matter.

She didn’t do a five-step Spiritual Mind Treatment.

She didn’t call the prayer line.

She didn’t utter one word.

She just let go.

No one was around when it happened.

There was no applause or congratulations.

No one thanked her or praised her.

No one noticed a thing.

Like a leaf falling from a tree, she just let go.

There was no effort.

There was no struggle.

It wasn’t good and it wasn’t bad.

It was what it was, and it is just that.

In the space of letting go, she let it all be.

A small smile came over her face.

A light breeze blew through her.

And the sun and the moon shone forevermore…

~ Rev Safire Rose

Just choose to let go …