10 Days to Feel Great!

10 Days to Feel Great!

It’s not always easy to decide what is best or which path to take.

One of Louise Hay’s favorite affirmations is:
Trust in Life. It will bring you all that you need.

Throughout her writings, she reminds us that the key to trusting in Life is to love and accept yourself as you are and to never stop learning.

You can experience peace, trust and joy every day by doing these three simple things:

  1. feel great, hay house world summit 2014Love yourself
  2. Learn continuously
  3. Help others

Wouldn’t you like to feel more…

  • Loved and appreciated
  • Happy and fulfilled
  • Excited about your life
  • Trust that Life will take care of you
  • Worthy and deserving of having all you want
  • Connected to your loved ones
  • Energetic and youthful
  • Supported by the Universe
  • In control of your life

Let’s find out what’s really holding you back from feeling exactly the way you want.

Here’s a quick exercise to help you uncover your hidden beliefs that could be getting in the way of your health and happiness:

Ask: How do I feel about myself?

Write all of your thoughts on paper and read them out loud.

How many were positive?
How many were negative?

Don’t get caught up in judging how many thoughts were negative.  Just being aware of the negative beliefs you hold inside is very powerful!

And you know what’s even more powerful?  Turning all of those negative beliefs into positive statements.

For example, take this negative thought:  “I’ll never make enough money.” 

And try saying this instead: “I always have everything I need.” Or “I always have more than enough.”  Or “I make plenty of money.” Use whichever positive statement resonates with you.

Guess what happens once you change your thoughts and truly love and accept yourself?

Good things start happening because you feel good about yourself.

But, it’s easier said than done, right? It’s often difficult to know how to get started.

We can help you take the first step. The techniques, lessons and insightful new thinking we are sharing this year in the Hay House World Summit is exactly what you need to feel better about yourself and to feel more connected, more loved and more at peace so that you can attract more GOOD into your life!

Even if you don’t have time to listen to every speaker each day, you can choose one speaker or topic that interests you and make the most out of that lesson. You’ll be amazed how much can change just from one lesson!

Register now for the Hay House World Summit and start learning new ways to feel loved, worthy and valuable!

You might be thinking you’ve heard it all already or the World Summit might work for other people, but won’t help you. Guess what? Those are all the types of thoughts you need to be aware of and ask yourself, are these thoughts really true?

We all have unique stories and circumstances that shape our lives, but the path to peace and happiness is always the same: learn, love and help others. It’s really that simple.

Beginning May 31st through June 9th, come along with us for a heart opening journey in discovering new healing methods, exploring your creative side, igniting your passion and feeling better than you ever imagined!

10 Days to Feel Great!  

Hay House World Summit 2014 – Bigger and Better Than Ever!

Hay House World Summit 2014 – Bigger and Better Than Ever!

You won’t believe what Hay House are giving away…for FREE!
Sharing the best with you so you can be your best!

Hay House set out to create the most empowering and memorable online webinar available anywhere in the world!

And they are starting off with a bang with three FREE Bonus Video lessons from the leading experts in healing, forgiveness and manifesting!

Louise Hay, Iyanla Vanzant and Esther Hicks with Dr. Wayne Dyer, speak to the most popular question Hay House was asked during last year’s World Summit: How do I find my truth, my inner ding, my purpose, my calling?

First, Louise Hay and Robert Holden recently sat down for an intimate conversation about the importance of self-love, what they do when they feel discouraged (yes, even Louise gets discouraged from time to time), the power of forgiveness, and how to hear your inner ding. Listen and learn what Louise suggests you do every day – it will definitely surprise you!

Mirror Work, Louise Hay, Robert Holden, Hay House World Summit, Free Bonus Video

Repeat after Louise: Everything I need to know will be revealed to me.

You are the answer and you have the power to heal your life!

This second video is a conscious raising lesson in forgiveness that is sure to make you laugh, dance, say a little “um hmm” and fill your heart and soul with love, love, love!

This isn’t your typical lecture, so prepare to be wowed, inspired and empowered to call upon your wholiness in only the way Iyanla Vanzant can!

Get ready to fill your belly with laughter because Iyanla’s gonna put some lovin’ on you!

Wholiness to the Rescue, Iyanla Vanzant, Hay House World Summit 2014

Can you hear your wholiness? Are you really ready for a shift? Are you willing to forgive everyone, including yourself, for everything in the past even though it’s REALLY REALLY HARD?

If you answered yes, then you are ready for the final, very special, Bonus Video lecture. For the first time ever, Esther Hicks shares the stage with Dr. Wayne Dyer for an evening with Abraham.

Esther, while channeling the wise sages known collectively as Abraham, is asked those high frequency questions we all want answers to! Bask in the pure positive energy between Abraham and Dr. Dyer in this enlightening conversation!

Law of Attraction, Esther Hicks, Abraham Hicks, Wayne Dyer, Hay House World Summit 2014

Caught a little bit of spirit from this powerful duo, didn’t you? It’s time to tap into that higher frequency and get into the flow!

And these are only the bonus videos! These experts know how to heal, forgive and manifest and they are sharing their best with you!

It’s time to fall in love with you, release all resentment and manifest your new, most glorious self!

Watch these videos now and see what else the Hay House World Summit 2014 has to offer HERE

Hay House World Summit 2014 – Bigger and Better Than Ever!

366 Days of Kindness

366 Days of Kindness

I went to see a show last night, and what a wonderful show it was!

Bernadette Russell, as a result of seeing the devastation of the London riots in August 2011, decided to do an act of kindness every single day for a full year, and as 2012 was a leap year, this was going to be 366 days.

Bernadette decided to keep a diary of what she did every day. As time went on, she had to come up with some very creative ways of being kind, things that were as personal as she could make them to the receiver, that made them feel very special, and also things that were fun enough to keep Russell entertained and motivated to keep going, as she admitted was needed at times.

I expected the show to be quite a straightforward, if uplifting, lists of kindnesses, but it turned out to be a comedy extravaganza, performed by Russell and her partner Gareth.

Some examples from her diary:

Day 36: Left a fiver on the bus seat, but I wrote on the fiver explaining, in the  hope it gets passed around and spreads the word! This fiver did come back to me, months later, via Twitter, from a man who was given it in change in Nottingham and kindly posted a picture for me.

kindness, 366 days of kindnessDay 52: Left jar of sweets saying eat me at house near me. Rang bell, ran away.

Day 161: met this lovely man outside Waterloo station collecting for veterans. I gave him the scripscraps from my purse. Him: “Thanks” Me: “You’re welcome. Can I take a photo of you?” Him: “I’ll probably break your camera” Me: “No you won’t, a handsome man like you” Him: “oo *blushes* er.. ok.. thanks”. It got me thinking, I don’t give enough compliments. They don’t cost anything etc. Gonna do more.

Day 186: I got the homeless man sitting outside tescos a sandwich and rolos. He said he sleeps out. Blimey. In this. I couldn’t do one night.

kindness, 366 days of kindness, pound fairyDay 239: Left a little message and a pound coin on a park bench in Deptford.

There were so many examples of little kindnesses, that cost very little money, or no money at all, but put huge smiles on people’s faces.

What I especially liked were the personal connections made with strangers, people we wouldn’t normally come into contact with. In fact, as Bernadette demonstrated, it can be easy to approach someone who looks rather friendly, but how about someone who looks grumpy, or someone who is dressed in a similar style to a ‘London rioter’: Russell paid for a stamp in a Post Office for a young lad wearing a hoodie pulled up around his head, and his eyes down, he was very grateful for the help.

Often the people who don’t ‘look’ happy or look like negative stereotypes formed by society, are the ones who need the kindness, acceptance and inclusion, shown even more.

“If someone doesn’t have a smile, give them one of yours”

Kindness doesn’t have to involve giving money; in fact, it often means more without giving money:

  • Helping a pensioner lifting shopping into a car
  • Making homemade cards or positive messages, and leaving them in random places for people to find
  • Sitting with a homeless person, hearing their story, it’s often a powerful one, rather than throwing a fiver at them and walking away.

It reminded me of the homeless lady I gave my gloves to, because it was the middle of winter and I noticed, after giving her a cup of hot chocolate, how she wrapped her bare hands around the cup to warm them.

I would like to add here that I myself received an act of kindness, as I was gifted my ticket to the show. I was going to go anyway, and hadn’t bought my ticket yet, when somebody who had already paid found they couldn’t go, so gave me their ticket. I am very thankful.

Russell’s message is that if everybody does a small act of kindness every day, we will be living in a very different world. This movement is sweeping across the planet in a very powerful way. If we can teach our children this, the entire world can be improved within a generation.

Do Nice, Be Kind, Spread Happy, kindness, 366 days of kindnessI bought a copy of Russell’s children’s book ‘Do Nice, Be Kind, Spread Happy’, at the show, and it was lovely to speak with her personally and she signed the book for my 7-year-old niece. I got home and read it, and decided I need to buy another – for MYSELF!

It has such beautiful suggestions for very simple things that children, and adults as it turns out, can do every day. This is not a little paperback of lists. It is a large book, bigger than A4 size, with fully illustrated, and funny, pages and exercises to do, written in language that will engage children of all ages. It is a book that children will want to return to time and time again.

Buy ‘Do Nice, Be Kind, Spread Happy’ at Amazon.co.uk

Buy ‘Do Nice, Be Kind, Spread Happy’ at Amazon.com

The 366 Days of Kindness tour has only a couple more shows running:

Brighton, England – 19th & 20th May 2014

Cardiff, Wales – 28th May 2014

Details HERE – I can’t recommend it highly enough!

Please join the Kindness Revolution yourself, and help change the world, one kindness at a time.

www.366daysofkindness.com

Twitter: @betterussell #366daysofkindness

Facebook: #366 Days of Kindness

366 Days of Kindness

No such thing as a small act of kindness

No such thing as a small act of kindness

“Remember there’s no such thing as a small act of kindness. Every act creates a ripple with no logical end.”
Scott Adams, Creator Of Dilbert Comic Strip

kindness, plato, be kind, patience, love

“In life you can never be too kind or too fair; everyone you meet is carrying a heavy load. When you go through your day expressing kindness and courtesy to all you meet, you leave behind a feeling of warmth and good cheer, and you help alleviate the burdens everyone is struggling with.”
Brian Tracy, Motivational Author

 

“The best portion of a good man’s life; his little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and of love.”
William Wordsworth, Poet

No such thing as a small act of kindness

Forgive, let go and be free

Forgive, let go and be free

forgive, let go and be free

 

Too often, we carry around those things from our past that hurt us the most.

Don’t let past pain rob you of your present happiness.

You had to live through it in the past, and that cannot be changed, but if the only place it lives today is in your mind, then forgive, let go, and be free.

~Doe Zantamata

What are you carrying around that you could let go of today? Who are you feeling bitter towards? Forgiveness does not mean you have to have the person who wronged you in your life, just that you learned a hard lesson and can move on from it without remaining attached to the emotional pain. The beauty of it is, when you free them, you free yourself.

Forgive, let go and be free

Just Love

Just Love

 

Just Love

 

Just Love

3 Steps for Having Money Conversations With Your Partner

3 Steps for Having Money Conversations With Your Partner

Money Conversations With Your Partner, money talksIt starts a week from today!

Join us for our 9-day The Art of Love Relationship Series, starting next Tuesday, April 1st!

Register for this FREE event HERE

Gina DeVee, one of the 55 love and relationship experts featured in The Art of Love Relationship Series, will be speaking on a panel about “Overcoming Money Madness: The Secrets To Navigating Rough Financial Waters With Ease.” Gina recommends following these 3 steps when having conversations about money with your partner:

“Step one is related to how we can sometimes be polarized in our thinking in society, where something needs to be either one or the other—and I’m a big fan of taking a stand for the ‘and.’ So for example, if one member of the couple wants to save and the other wants to take a trip to Italy, really exploring first and foremost how might both be possible? How can you create or manifest the funds to do what both people desire?

My second step is to be really curious in love. Relationships are teachers. So if your partner says, ‘I really think that we should buy this house,’ or ‘I really think that we should pad our nest egg,’ rather than react because you have the opposite viewpoint, really be curious about your partner, and discover why that is important to him or her, and see what else you can learn and fall more deeply in love with that person for, and how it can expand your own viewpoint.

And then the third step that really requires personal responsibility is to know thyself. Most of us are just operating out of money rules that were passed down to us versus really investigating for ourselves what is true for us. So if one person thinks, ‘Oh, I must buy a house,’ well, is that true for you and is that really part of your own value system, or did your parents tell you you were throwing money away if you were renting? So really knowing what your own truth is, is critical.” —Gina DeVee

Join Gina and all 55 of the world’s most respected love and relationship experts during our 3rd annual FREE 9-day The Art of Love Relationship Series. Starting on Tuesday, April 1st, you will learn the latest insights about how to have a more connected, satisfying relationship—and deeper love—than you ever thought possible.

Register for the free event here, and watch 3 pre-event bonus interviews with Deepak Chopra, Dr Jenn Berman and Michael Bernard Beckwith

3 Steps for Having Money Conversations With Your Partner

Getting What You’ve Been Craving In The Bedroom

Getting What You’ve Been Craving In The Bedroom: How To Make Your Sex Life More Intimate Than It’s Ever Been

Dr. Jenn Berman

Getting What You’ve Been Craving In The Bedroom: How To Make Your Sex Life More Intimate Than It’s Ever BeenDr. Jenn Berman is a licensed psychotherapist in private practice in Los Angeles. She is the host and lead therapist on VH1′s Couple’s Therapy where she does intensive therapy with celebrity couples. She has appeared as a psychological expert on hundreds of television shows including The Oprah Winfrey ShowThe Today ShowThe Early Show, and HLN.

Watch Dr Jenn Berman and Arielle Ford Now – at absolutely no charge

Open communication about sex is what makes sex better. But navigating those conversations can be really tricky business. Discover how to comfortably and effectively communicate with your partner about sex — and then reap the rewards!

In the main event webinar you’ll also learn:

  • The #1 reason a partner withholds sex – and what to do if that’s happening to you
  • Where, when and how to bring up the subject of sex
  • How to ask for what you want – and get it!
  • Important do’s and don’ts for flirting with your partner
  • How to break the news that you’ve been faking – and end up (actually) satisfied!
  • The #1 way to give suggestions so your partner wants to take them
  • Top 4 reasons – especially women – lose their libido (and how to get it back)
  • Why surrendering could be the sexiest thing you do

Watch the short video with Dr Jenn and Arielle here!

This video is just a small preview of a truly remarkable, free online event Arielle is hosting for the third consecutive year: The Art of Love Relationship Series set to kick off on April 1st, 2014. Starting with the LIVE kick-off on April 1st, and for 9 more powerful days, you’ll hear from over 50 of the world’s most respected love and relationship experts . . .Art of Love Relationship Series 2014

They’ll be sharing the latest insights about how to have a more connected, satisfying relationship—and deeper love—than you ever thought possible.

(Mark your calendar now so you don’t miss it!)

Faculty for the series includes Dr. John Gray, Harville Hendrix, Alison Armstrong, Dr. Gay Hendricks, Dr. Katie Hendricks, Neale Donald Walsch, Katherine Woodward Thomas, Claire Zammit, Lisa Nichols, Arielle Ford, and many others.

Dr Jenn Berman will also be participating in Seminar 4: Becoming Partners In Parenting: How to Parent As A Team Even When You Disagree alongside Jacqueline Green and Dr. Laura Markham.

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Getting What You’ve Been Craving In The Bedroom: How To Make Your Sex Life More Intimate Than It’s Ever Been

The Art of Love – Relationship Series 2014

The Art of Love – Relationship Series 2014

Art of Love Relationship Series 2014I have a brand new, never-before-seen video to share with you!
It features world-renowned mind-body physician and New York Times #1 bestselling author Deepak Chopra and bestselling love and relationship author Arielle Ford.

In this short video, Deepak shares powerful, fast-working tips that will not only help you create a whole new level of connection and intimacy with your partner than you ever imagined possible . . .

They will also help you to identify and break unconscious habits that stand in the way of true intimacy. And if you’re not in a relationship right now but are hoping to be someday soon, these insights will help you experience the deeper levels of intimacy you’ve always wished were possible when that happens.

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Most of us want to feel truly seen, heard and understood by our partner, and to experience the kind of close connection we know we deserve. But in our modern world, we’re so busy and distracted that often there just doesn’t seem to be enough quality time available to spend with our partners to begin with . . . In this short video:

“The 4 Simple Steps To Deeper Connection:  How to Overcome the Challenges of a Modern  Relationship and Find the Intimacy You Crave”

Deepak shares techniques you can use right away to overcome those challenges by taking better advantage of the time you do have together to create more closeness and intimacy in your relationship!

Watch the short video with Deepak and Arielle here!

Deepak and Arielle dive right in, sharing the techniques you can use to build more connection in your relationship! In this video, you’ll discover . . .

  • 3 daily habits that will increase intimacy

  • A simple mindset shift that will create the conditions that cultivate love instead of smothering it or pushing it away

  • The 4-step process that will help you give up your need to control and instead allow you to get closer

  • How to find and maintain a state of “allowing” so that love flows to and from you freely

Access the Deepak Chopra and Arielle Ford video Now

This video is just a small preview of a truly remarkable, free online event Arielle is hosting for the third consecutive year: The Art of Love Relationship Series set to kick off on April 1st, 2014. Starting with the LIVE kick-off on April 1st, and for 9 more powerful days, you’ll hear from over 50 of the world’s most respected love and relationship experts . . . Art of Love Relationship Series 2014

They’ll be sharing the latest insights about how to have a more connected, satisfying relationship—and deeper love—than you ever thought possible. (Mark your calendar now so you don’t miss it!)

Faculty for the series includes Dr. John Gray, Harville Hendrix, Alison Armstrong, Dr. Gay Hendricks, Dr. Katie Hendricks, Neale Donald Walsch, Katherine Woodward Thomas, Claire Zammit, Lisa Nichols, Arielle Ford, and many others.

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Here are just a few of the enthusiastic responses Arielle has received from people who have attended The Art of Love Relationship Series in the past:

“I’ve experienced a shift of consciousness. Instead of empty and lonely and longing for love, I feel full, beautiful, and ‘in love’ with a sense of expectancy and readiness for this love relationship about to manifest!” —Nia

“This program has taught me so much about myself and my perception of love. I have been awakened and forever changed by my new knowledge. All the questions I’ve had have all been closed. This is the big piece of the puzzle that has been missing for me my entire life!” —Heather

“I was floundering in a sea of failed relationships, but now I look to the future with hopeful expectation!” —Al

“I now feel a sense of healing and opening of my heart so I can love and be loved. I highly recommend The Art of Love for anyone searching for a soulful connection and anyone who wants to grow the existing love connection.” —Karen

Join me, and together we’ll take in everything this brand new series has to offer!

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The Art of Love

When things go wrong … (part 3)

When things go wrong … (part 3)

how you reactFollowing on from When things go wrong … Part 1 and Part 2

I slept for what seemed like only a few minutes. It was about 4:30am when I awoke.

Remembering that my hired car was parked where it shouldn’t be, I started worrying I would have to move it before about 8am if I was to avoid a run-in with the Spanish police. I didn’t want to go walking down dark streets at that time of the morning, even though I have never felt unsafe in Spain. Going back to sleep could be risky. I may or may not wake in time. The crazy thing about narcolepsy is my ability to sleep ‘on a washing line’, as long as it’s not at night when sleep is supposed to happen!

I got up and explored my room more thoroughly, as I hadn’t had a chance before flaking out after the events of last night. As I’ve come to expect in Spain, my room and en-suite shower room were immaculately clean. Wondering why my basement room would have curtains, I looked behind to discover an open patio door, leading out into a small courtyard, only about 2 metres square. At first I worried that the door had been open while I slept, then I realised my room was the only access to the courtyard, so I was safe. It added to the cuteness of my room.

I put on my coat and decided to go look for the kitchen up on the roof terrace I remembered vaguely being told about, and see if I could make a cup of tea. I grabbed my cigarettes, Kindle and headphones. I have some guided meditations stored on my Kindle, maybe one of those would help tame the negative thoughts I already felt creeping back.

Tea made, I found the roof terrace a quiet, serene place to sit. The sky was a blanket of stars, many more than I could ever possibly see over my cloudy hometown back in the North-East of England. One star in the East, right ahead of me, seemed to shine ten times brighter than all the rest. Something about it made me feel less alone.

The anger from the previous evening pushed into my thoughts now and again, but the serenity of the night helped my soul to tame it. I turned my attention to what I have learned, and what I would be advising someone else who described such a thing happening to them.

The first thing that came up was “You have to stop the anger”. My ego argued, “Why should I stop it, I have a right to be bloody angry?”. My soul returned, “you’ll only get more of it”. Of course this made sense to me: I knew that if I continued to carry this angry emotion around, my negative energy vibration would result in the attraction of more negative consequences to myself. It wouldn’t affect him one bit.

“Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”
Gautama Buddha

when things go wrongI thought of several other of my mantras I use when facing tough times:

  • Everything happens for a reason.
  • It always works out for me.
  • Things don’t always work out as we planned, but they always work out right.
  • I may not be where I expected to be, but I am where I’m meant to be.
  • At the times when its hardest to think it, you have to remember there is a blessing in Everything

“How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.” 
― Wayne W. Dyer

Repeating these, and feeling the energy of the stars, the universe, and my guardian angels, really smoothed my frayed edges and blunted the spiky thoughts. I felt altogether more peaceful and sat there under the stars for a couple of hours. I played a meditation audio, I read some soothing words from one of my many Kindle books, smoked a few ciggies and had another cup of tea. I decided to check on a flight home later on when I could get a wifi connection.

Then I realised, I was awake early enough to watch a beautiful Nerja sunrise, a rarity for me. I’m not a morning person, and it had been many years since I had watched the sunrise from a beach here. What a treat! I headed down to the Balcon de Europa, just a 3-minute walk away, at about 6:30am.

Although the Balcon was deserted when I first arrived, I was surprised to see quite a few people arrive so soon after, a couple of obvious tourists – like me, with their cameras – and several Spanish people. How lovely, I thought, that they still make the effort to watch the sunrise, they don’t take it for granted, as many do of the beautiful scenes right at their doorsteps. It felt very spiritual, to see so many individuals, not talking to one another because each was absorbed in their own reason for being there, yet we were all connected in the soaking up of the energy of the morning. As the sun beamed “Good morning,” that bright star in the East whispered “Goodnight”.

nerja sunriseThere was a family there: they could have been grandparents, or they could have been mum and dad who had their two young sons later in life. The two adults were taking turns taking pictures of the family with the sun rising behind them. I thought, what a shame if they can’t all be in the same picture, so I walked over and gestured that I would take a picture of them all together with their camera. Happy with this, they returned the favour and took a photo of me with my phone. Language is no barrier to kindness, a smile speaks every language.

After moving my car to a better parking space, I returned to my room. I knew I needed to sleep and would not be checking out in time, so paid for another night. I would look for a flight home later. I slept all day.

when life throws you a wobblyWhen I awoke late in the afternoon, I looked for a flight. As it was such short notice, the flight prices were really quite high. I couldn’t change my existing flight, which was more than another week away, as I had already checked-in online and printed my boarding pass. I would have to pay for a new flight. It would take me way over my budget I’d saved for my holiday. After consideration, I thought if I was going to have to hit the credit card anyway for the flight, I could probably get a less expensive hostel over the other side of town, where it would be easier to park my car, and for the week it wouldn’t be too much more than the flight, add meals and spending money … Oh, blow it! The more I listened to my heart, the more I realised I HAD to stay. I hadn’t had a holiday in so long. I didn’t know when I would be able to afford or physically manage another. And my main reason was that I should not go home feeling like my holiday was ruined, not because I would blame him, but because I would blame MYSELF. I had options. While getting into debt is not something I would normally do for a holiday – being medically retired, unexpected expenses can be worrisome – it is something I felt I needed to do for peace of mind, and a week of straightening out my energy in such a lovely place. I decided I was not returning home full of regret, or blame for anyone, least of all myself.

After visiting a hotel just a couple of doors away from my favourite Irish bar, with plenty of free parking outside it, and getting a good deal on a week’s stay, I arranged to move in the following day as I’d already paid for the hostel.

I spent my last evening at the hostel focussing on the good things in my life: I was in a beautiful place. Several people had been helpful and caring in the last couple of days, this was the natural order of things. I was safe and as comfortable as I could be, despite the ongoing pain in my body which I have come to expect and manage the best I can. I was grateful to have hired the car, what would I have done without it? I was grateful that I had the emergency backup of a credit card. I decided this was going to be a lovely week ahead. I drifted into one of the most peaceful sleeps I had had in some time.

On arrival at the hotel the next day, I received a warm welcome by a young lady receptionist I had not met the previous day. She greeted me by my first name as I approached the desk as if I was an old friend. I appreciated the friendly informality.

I spent the week relaxing, chilling out, looking for things to appreciate and reasons to feel grateful, and I found them everywhere. The trauma of the event that brought me here faded into insignificance. I took walks along the beach, stopping at the regularly-placed wooden benches to sit and read a while, and to just watch the temperamental ocean.

“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.” 
― Wayne W. Dyer

I sat at a beach bar for a coffee and a group of three Englishmen at the next table invited me into their company by asking me about my Kindle. They were new to Nerja, and asked if I could recommend some good eating places. I mentioned a few restaurants, but assured them they couldn’t really go wrong: I had never had a bad meal here. Knowing I was in town on my own, they invited me to join them for dinner. I thanked them for the invite and graciously declined, happy to just float along in my own little world this week.

The next day, sat on a bench reading, I happened to look up just as two of the men from the day before passed by. “Hey Kindle lady”, they stopped to chat. I realised we had not introduced ourselves by name yesterday, so I introduced myself and held out a hand to shake with John and Mike. “We’re just going for some lunch. If you’re at a loose end, you’re very welcome to join us,” John offered. “That’s very kind of you. Really, I’m fine thank you”.

I continued to sit and focus on all the lovely, kind, friendly people in the world, and in my life. This is the best way to deal with the occasional unkind, unfriendly person, by realising that they are not the ‘norm’, we will bump into them occasionally for whatever reason, but to focus on unkindness will only attract more of that, so to counteract that negative energy, you look for the good in people.

The next day, after a short walk, of long duration with my many stops, I passed by a couple of familiar bars, but there was a big rugby match on the TV’s so I didn’t stop, I headed back to my hotel room. However, something made me stop at my Irish bar, despite the rugby projecting from the big screen on the terrace, and I ordered a pot of tea. I was reading my Kindle, and my attention was drawn to a lady sat at another table. She had a hat beside her on the table and it reminded me of my favourite aunt, a boho, hippie-style lady. After a few minutes, she turned and saw me, and said “What beautiful nails you have”. “Thank you”, I said, and we began chatting. As it turned out, Amanda had been travelling on her own around Spain for six months, and she was a writer/blogger. This connected us further, as it has long been a dream of mine to travel around Spain, and more of Europe. I don’t know how the subject came about so quickly, but she mentioned a couple of people had suggested she read ‘The Power of Now’. “Oh, Eckhart Tolle,” I said. “Yes,” she said, “now I know I must read it. I keep bumping into people who know of it”.

Amanda and I got along famously over the next few days. We had read many of the same or similar books, we held similar beliefs about the powers of the universe, we were on a similar life path. I said wasn’t it funny how I had stopped at the Irish bar even though I really wasn’t interested in the rugby. Amanda said the same: in the several weeks she had been in Nerja she had rarely been to that side of town, and she wasn’t interested in the rugby either. Amanda was going home next week too. It really felt like one of those ‘invisible threads’ I have read of, and have come to know to be true. Our souls really connected.

Amanda introduced me to an Italian restaurant I hadn’t been to before: delicious and a budget-traveller’s dream. We had some serious discussions about how our beliefs had pulled us through some tough times, and we had some right big laughs about the synchronicities and the fun games we had played with the universe and our angels.

I may not have ended up where I expected to be but I was in exactly the best place where I needed to be. I had not only made peace with where I was and how I had landed there, but I had made the conscious decision to attract the good world I wanted to see, and so it was.

“Loving people live in a loving world. Hostile people live in a hostile world. Same world.”
Wayne W. Dyer

Read – When things go wrong … Part 1 and Part 2

When things go wrong … (part 3)