I challenge you not to laugh!

daywithoutlaughterIf there is one thing I have found out since becoming a more consciously positive person, it’s that the world is full of people that just want to make others laugh, and lift their energy vibes.

Laughing is the one thing that just makes me feel better instantly, and it reduces my pain levels significantly. Indeed when I went through a particularly painful period in my life, it was a few of my Facebook friends that got me laughing again and really lifted my spirits. There’s a really good scientific reason for this: laughter releases endorphins, the body’s own natural painkillers, and 15 minutes gets a good dose of them running through your body.

“I love people who make me laugh. I honestly think it’s the thing I like most, to laugh. It cures a multitude of ills. It’s probably the most important thing in a person.”
 Audrey Hepburn

With the internet, and specifically Youtube, there is no shortage of laughter material available. People purposefully go out into the streets with the sole intention of putting a smile on other people’s faces, and as smiling and laughter is so infectious, it’s no wonder these videos are going viral.

Watch this selection if you want your day to become instantly brighter 🙂

… and if this doesn’t get you laughing, what are you in a coma or something?

And there’s a new form of exercise sweeping across the world – Laughter Yoga!

A friend of mine runs Laughter Yoga sessions and organised one in one of our town parks last summer. Of course I had to be there. About six of us were there, it’s new to our town so we didn’t know how many would turn up. There were quite a lot of people around and my friend had big signs up saying it was free to join in the Laughter Yoga session so I, in all my enthusiasm, said, “If we just start, people will join in when we do”. So we started. Well, I’ve never seen a park clear so quickly! Haha. Some people are just not ready for spontaneous bursts of laughter (although we spotted several people peeping round from behind some trees). Yes, I have also discovered there are many people who will avoid public laughter like the plague. I’m not going to let that stop me. It made us laugh all the more. I want those good-feeling endorphins! 😀

The £100 game

£100gameHow do you activate the energy of abundance in your life? Especially when it can be quite hard to feel abundant.

As we know, wealth and abundance are created in your mindset before they appear in your wallet.

The thought of ‘I can’t afford that’ is a low energy vibration, and attracts more things that you can’t afford.

Here is a little game you can use to change your thoughts and mindset from one of ‘I can’t afford it’, to ‘I could have that if I want’.

Put £100 in your wallet or purse or pocket. Don’t worry if you have it earmarked for something else. You’re not going to spend it. If you don’t actually have £100, print out some pictures of the notes/bills, or buy some of those napkins or tissues you can get that look like money, they’re only a few pennies to buy if you can find them. The important thing is that you can ‘pretend’ they are real money that you can spend.

Go on a universal spending spree. Walk around the stores. Look at things you like and could buy with your £100, and just say to yourself things like ‘I can have that’, ‘I could buy that’, ‘That will look great on me’, ‘I can afford that’, ‘I have the money to buy that’.

Get the feeeeeeeling of abundance, that you could buy those things if you chose to. Even if you come home having not actually bought anything, you still have £100, but most of all you will feel better. You could have mentally ‘spent’ your £100 one hundred times, meaning you have spent £10,000 in one day. You will have moved your abundance mindset to a positive one of possibility rather than a negative one of lack, and you may quickly see evidence of your improved energy vibration, possibly in the form of an unexpected windfall. When you do see some evidence, remember to say ‘Thank you universe’ and relish the feeling of gratitude to keep that vibration active.

Exercise inspired by Abraham-Hicks.

How’s that working for ya?

newday“If you always do what you always did, you will always get what you always got.”
Albert Einstein

Do you ever feel stuck or stagnant in life? Like you’re pedalling and pedalling as fast as you can, but feel like you’re on a stationary exercise bike and getting nowhere.

Do you sometimes feel like you can’t get away from stress? Drama seems to follow you everywhere.

Have you ever taken the time to really look at how you act or react in situations? Do you see a pattern? Do you hear the same thought pattern going on in your mind, and respond to it, even if it doesn’t feel good and you see the same result come from your response?

Here’s the thing – most of our thoughts are the same thoughts we thought yesterday and the day before and the day before that. And they’re not even our own natural thoughts, we inherited them, they were passed on to us, usually by parents or teachers, and often before the age of 7, when our brain was operating mostly in the theta brain wave frequency, the state responsible for learning, and the state used by hypnotists as that is how our subconscious becomes programmed.

Then every time in our lives when we have relied on and used a particular thought, we have strengthened and reinforced it, so it became even more automatic and more powerful. It then influences the actions that we take.

If you want to know how your thoughts are working for you, look at what you’re getting in your life. Your life is not happening TO you, it is showing you what you are thinking, what your programming is.

The good news is – you can re-program your mind. The way to do that is to look at the parts of your life that don’t work for your highest good, examine your thoughts in that area and consciously make changes. It only needs a few small changes to start with, and if those changes make you feel even slightly better, that’s a good indication you are moving in the right direction. Add more small changes to the mix, and they will have a compounding effect, enabling you to think improved thoughts about your situation. The improved thoughts then change your actions.

Tony Robbins is one of the, if not THE, world’s best motivational and transformational teachers of changing your habits to improve your life.

Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
– Albert Einstein

Worry be gone

worryingFrom a religious stand-point, Jesus once asked his 12 disciples: “Which of you by worrying can add a single strand of hair to your head?” Now, you may be of a religious background or maybe not, but, think about that statement and you’d see why worrying, a main symptom of anxiety depression is quite unnecessary.

“I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.” ― Mark Twain

Reduced to its simplest form, what is worry? It is simply an unhealthy and destructive mental habit that – believe it or not folks – you were not born with but simply acquired out of practice. The good news is, with practised actions, as with any habit and acquired attitude; we can be worry free and eliminate it from our lives successfully.

Many psychologists say that ‘worry’, a noted symptom of any form of depression, is the most subtle and destructive of all human diseases. When we worry excessively, we disintegrate our inner workings as humans and really put a lot of things out of order. Needless to say, avoiding worry as a step of treating depression and anxiety will be the first step for our own benefit.

Anxiety Depression: Steps to take to be Worry Free:

The following steps should be used to deal with anxiety depression and its main symptom, worry. When used wisely and effectively, you will inevitably be successful at these natural depression help techniques.

1. Practice Mind-drainage: Empty your mind of pessimistic and negative thoughts, especially before going to and after waking up from sleep. This involves some degree of imagination friends. (the same imagination-mind you-that you are actually using to aggravate your present situations…didn’t realize that eh?). This mind-draining strategy cannot be overemphasized as I will let you know, if you fear something for a long period of time, it may actually come to pass. “For the thing which I feared has come upon me…” (Job 3:25)

2. Fill up the mind with powerful thoughts of faith and success to fill up the vacuum now left in the mind. You become a worrier by practising it, you can be worry-free by practising the opposite.

3. Say positive things about those things you previously spoke negatively of.

4. Never participate in a worry conversation. Induce your conversation with faith and worry-free statements.

5. Make friends with optimistic people, practice prayer and meditation.

6. Exercise and eat right. You’ll be making yourself look and feel better and consequently stronger through the process for overcoming depression, anxiety and becoming worry free.

No one is saying things will be automatically changed overnight. No, it takes work. However with direct and equally aggressive actions as the destructive worry habits one may be indulging in, anxiety depression can be overcome and you too can be worry free if you believe in your mind you can.

I really like Dr Wayne Dyer‘s description of worry, which shows how pointless worrying is: “It makes no sense to worry about the things you have no control over, because if you have no control over them, it makes no sense to worry about them. And also, it makes no sense to worry about the things you do have control over, because if you have control over them, it makes no sense to worry about them. And there goes everything that it is possible to worry about. Either you have control or you don’t, and worry is just a waste of your precious, present moments.”

Check out Dr Wayne Dyer’s extensive self-empowerment collection on Amazon.com or on Amazon.co.uk

From a Law of Attraction standpoint, feeling the emotion of worry puts you on a matching vibrational frequency to attracting more things to worry about. Letting go of the feeling of worry and achieving a more positive vibration of hopefulness or optimism will help you attract a solution.

For a light-hearted Life Coaching session to help you stop worrying, watch this video:

Please note: Anxiety depression can be experienced in a wide range of severity. If very severe, you may wish to consult a doctor or other professional to help you get through the worst extremes, or to ensure that it is not due to an underlying health problem or chemical imbalance.

Do it anyway …

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People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies. Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and sincere people may deceive you. Be honest and sincere anyway.

What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight. Create anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous. Be happy anyway.

The good you do today, will often be forgotten. Do good anyway.

Give the best you have, and it will never be enough. Give your best anyway.

In the final analysis, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.

Mother Teresa

No matter what religious beliefs people may hold, I believe these words from Mother Teresa to be universal truth. If all any of us lived by were these words, they would be enough to achieve instant worldwide peace.

This is the philosophy Mother Teresa lived her entire life by. She didn’t just speak it, she lived it and showed it. This is what earns her the title of a Saint.

The blessings of technology

telephone tinsDoes anybody else remember the days when our only means of communication was a hand-written letter sent by snail-mail, or by a telephone which was connected to the wall by a wire, often located in the chilly hallway of your house, if you were lucky and didn’t have to walk down the road to an icy public telephone box? And I’m sure every child has had the pleasure of the tin cans connected by a piece of string.

If a friend moved away, possibly to a different country, we often lost contact after the initial eager letter-writing to see how they’ve settled in, what their new home and lifestyle is like. We often didn’t see them again, as air travel was very expensive and not within the realms of the everyday person.

Our world was a relatively small one, confined to family and close friends.

Just look how far we’ve come in only 20 years. We have gone through the evolution of cordless phones, car and mobile phones the size of a brick and available only to the world of the uber-rich, to mobile phones smaller than your hand, that access the entire world of the Internet, and considered an everyday item to even the least well-off in our first-world society.

We can carry a whole library of books, music and films around in our pocket, and we can contact almost anyone, anywhere in the world in a matter of minutes, they are no further than our fingertips.

No longer do we have to suffer the engaged tone down the telephone handset, sometimes for hours if the receiver has been knocked off the telephone. If someone is unavailable at that moment, we simply send a text, an email or a message to their social media account, that usually leads to a response within minutes.

Our social circle has rapidly expanded, and many of us now actively engage with many people from all over the world. We get to know about their different lifestyles, their culture, the different and delicious foods. We share ideas, recipes, jokes, views and opinions, and best of all we can offer support and love to people we have never even met, but we are all connected.

When I was ill and housebound for some time, my online friends, many of whom I have never met, supported me, lifted my spirits, helped me laugh.

I have a friend in Sweden who I hadn’t had contact with for a couple of years as she is not connected to the Internet in any way. I had lost her address and telephone number. I had an impulse to contact her, and remembered I had her son’s email address as a result of sending her some photos, via him, a few years ago. So I sent him a quick email, reminding him who I was, and asking how his parents are. My friend phoned me the very next day, and was so pleased I had got in touch. Unfortunately her husband had passed away just a couple of weeks before, so even though it was very sad news, I was pleased to be able to comfort her at this time, and I am making arrangements to meet up with her at their villa in Spain very soon. I have also set up a Skype account to enable me to keep in touch with her more often by telephone very inexpensively.

Yesterday, I had the pleasure of meeting up with a group of friends about 40 miles from my home. These friends all met through the Internet, specifically Facebook, as we are all interested in positive thinking and personal development. It is lovely to connect with so many like-minded people from far and wide. One lady travelled 2.5 hours by train, and another travelled 3 hours by car to be there. We are all in contact almost daily through Facebook, but there is something really special about meeting up in person and sharing such positive energy, and amazing conversation and food together.

As I have now connected with Skype, it is my aim this month to have some lovely voice conversations with good friends I have known for a long time, but never met or spoken to, some for 5 years.

Technology has helped keep us safer. In the event of an incident, such as a car breakdown, or being delayed on a journey, we can call for help and assistance, and we can contact loved ones to reassure them of our safety. We can allow our teenage children more freedom, knowing there is contact should we need it.

I am eager to see what the near future brings to connect us even more closely. Perhaps teleportation so I can just nip over the other side of the world for a quick coffee or meal with even more great people?

My only challenge is keeping up with the technology. Luckily I have 2 sons who were born technology-ready, so they have helped to drag me (sometimes kicking and screaming) into the 21st century.

What is your favourite blessing to come from technology?

How would you like to see technology progress?



Turn your can’t do’s into can do’s

Didraws1“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, either way you’re right”
Henry Ford

One of Sam Berns‘ tips for a happy life was ‘turn your can’t do’s into can do’s’.

What do you often say ‘I can’t do that’ about?

Our limiting beliefs are most often caused by programming when we were younger. Of course there are many things you can do that you think or say you can’t. If it’s been done by someone else, then it is possible; anybody has the potential. It is just a question of learning, focus and practising.

Even if it hasn’t been done yet, it doesn’t mean it can’t be done. The world has only ever progressed because of the great people in history who had a vision and overcame immense criticism to show that they COULD do it. What would our world be like if the Wright Brothers had listened to and believed the naysayers that said it was impossible for us to fly in a machine?

Didraws2In my case, it was drawing. I have always said ‘I can’t draw. I can’t even draw a cat or a stick man’.

I often wanted to be able to. I admired many of the great artists and the many people around me who could produce beautiful, unique works of art.

A while ago, I was shopping and bought my young niece some colouring pencils. I felt the urge to buy some to keep at my house for when she came to visit. I often saw them on the shelf and thought ‘I’d love to be able to draw’.

Didraws3When I was at school, one year I got an A in Art. The following year, I had a different teacher and only got a D. Obviously my confidence was knocked, and I chose to think the thought I was no good at Art. I spent the next 30 years reinforcing that thought until it became the belief ‘I can’t draw’.

“If you can’t you must, and if you must you can.”
Anthony Robbins

Didraws4So, over the next few months, my eyes kept landing on these coloured pencils and I thought ‘someday I’m going to learn to draw’, until the someday arrived when I was drawn to a picture on a notebook and I thought ‘I must have a go at drawing that’.

So I did just that. After 30 years of never picking up a pencil to draw, I had a go, despite realising I didn’t have an eraser or a pencil sharpener. I could have let that become a reason to stop me having a go, but I chose to have a go anyway. The result was the picture at the top right of this page.

It actually turned out OK. So then I thought ‘Well I’ve always said I can’t even draw a cat, so let’s have a go at that’. I got onto Google Images and searched for pictures of cats. As you can see from the next picture, I can now draw a cat. I couldn’t draw a stick man, so I found pictures of people, yes ok cartoon ones, but still figures of people, just so I couldn’t say that any more.

Didraws5Then I set myself my biggest challenge. It’s all very well drawing cartoons, as even if they don’t turn out exactly the same as the picture I’m drawing, I could still get away with it looking like a character. But how would I do with drawing a picture of a real person, and could I get it to actually look like the person it’s meant to be?

So to the right here is the result of that. Can you tell who it is? Please comment.

I was pleased that most of my friends could tell who it was immediately.

I can no longer say that I can’t draw, because I CAN draw!

OK they are not going to win any awards, or sell in any galleries, but they are a first step in changing a belief. Rome wasn’t built in a day.

Another thing we say is that we need to wait until other circumstances are right for us to try things. If I had waited until I had an eraser and pencil sharpener before I started, I still might be saying ‘I can’t draw’. The fact that I didn’t have an eraser made me all the more focused on getting it right the first time.

Most of all, I really enjoyed my time drawing these. Doing something that really absorbs your concentration can take your mind off other niggling little everyday stresses.

So examine the things about which you say ‘I can’t do that’ and do something to overcome that belief so you can say ‘I CAN do that!’. When you develop your CAN DO attitude, your confidence will grow in many other areas of your life.

Would you like to be able to play the guitar, swim, sing, write or dance? Just have a go, devote a bit of time and focus to it.

What does the phrase ‘I can’t do that’ stop you enjoying in your life?


Attract Your Ideal Relationship Using the Law of Attraction

Loa_relationshipFirst, I’ll need to explain what Law of Attraction is and how it works. You see, the Law of Attraction states that you’ll attract to your life whatever you give your attention, energy and focus to, whether wanted or unwanted – emphasis on the unwanted. The “vibes” that you put out (also called vibrations) are either negative vibes or positive vibes, and at every moment, the Law of Attraction is responding to the vibes you are offering by giving you more of the same, whether wanted or unwanted.

If you are curious about what it is that you are offering vibrationally in any area of your life, you simply need to take a look at that area and see what you’re getting… it’s a perfect match. Mentally take a brief inventory of different relationships that you have in your life. For some people, there is a mixture of the kinds of people they have in their lives; some who support and uplift them, and others who are negative. So why do you attract negative people?

In both of these cases, you’re already experiencing the Law of Attraction. As you enjoy and appreciate certain people in your life, in that moment, you are offering positive vibrations. The Law of Attraction is unfolding and orchestrating whatever needs to happen to bring you more of the same. And as you notice and pay attention to the negative people in your life and the things that irritate you about them, you’ll see the Law of Attraction unfold to bring you more of the same. By shifting your focus and attention to what you do want, then you’ll change the results accordingly.

Want to know how to attract your ideal mate? Build a list of all the things you didn’t like about your current or last mate/partner. This list, we’ll call “contrast,” will help you understand. For example, if your list of negative things about ‘past mates’ includes someone that doesn’t take you to dinner, spend time with you, doesn’t uplift you, or spends too much time away travelling, now you’ll be able to see why you’re attracting this. Your list makes it clear, remembering that whatever you place your attention to, you’ll get more of it.

The Law of Attraction can only bring to you what you give your attention, energy and focus to, so change what you’re focusing your attention on by asking yourself, ‘What do I want?’ When you catch yourself thinking or saying what you don’t want, in that very moment, state what you do want. The words and the vibration will change. Remember, you can only hold one vibration at a time, so make it a good one!

In the example above, if we were to ask, “What do you want?” after each of those negative statements, our new list would bring us clarity about our ideal mate and would sound like: “My ideal mate takes me to dinner often, spends ample time with me, uplifts me, and spends a pleasing amount of time at home.” Can you feel the difference? It’s this feeling, or “vibe” that the Law of Attraction is responding to. Make sense? Go ahead and try it. Shift your attention to what you do want and know in that moment the Law of Attraction is responding to your vibration. The results will astonish you.

Help needed with Spanish translation please

This is a very different post than my usual, and it may be a long shot, but this is the Internet and puts me in touch with the whole world so who knows …

I am writing an article about Aviel, who I recently met and became friends with. He is going to Argentina in a couple of days to donate a kidney to his father, soooo amazing! I wrote about our meeting earlier in this post.

When he visited his father several months ago, and told him he wanted to do this, an Argentina News channel heard about it and interviewed them both.

My appeal is for someone who may be able to help me, as a favour, from the goodness of their heart, by translating this video, and adding English subtitles, so that Aviel’s many friends in the UK, where he has lived for the past 23 years, and anybody else in the UK interested in Aviel’s story, may be able to watch and understand it. Even if subtitled in Spanish, YouTube can then translate it.

Or if somebody is able to do a translated transcript of the conversation, I may be able to find someone who can create a subtitled video. Any help is appreciated.


Karmic connections

karmic_connectionHave you ever felt an impulse very strongly to do something or be in a certain place at a certain time? You don’t know why you feel pulled, but it becomes evident later why you just had to do it.

I am a member of a personal development and social networking group a fair distance from my home, and haven’t been able to attend for some 9 or 10 months, for various reasons. This past weekend I felt a very strong urge to be there.

There were a couple of new faces there. I had no idea when they had joined the group. So the organiser invited us to do a quick round of introducing ourselves: name, what brought us to the group, where we are on our life path, and what we would like to achieve from the group going forward.

As always, I enjoyed hearing how my like-minded, positive friends have been progressing in their life journeys. Then the second from last person, a man I had not met before, began speaking. And the room became so still, so quiet you could hear a pin drop, like nobody dared move a muscle in case we would lose the magic of what we were hearing.

Aviel had attended the group a couple of times. He is a farmer with a local Trust organisation, where he works on the land, growing organic and biodynamic crops, and he looks after many farm animals. This time, however, he had come to say his goodbyes to the group.

Aviel is leaving the country this week, to fly to Argentina, to donate a kidney to his father. A man who left his life 30 years ago, when Aviel was only 12 years of age.

Aviel displayed deep emotion as he revealed that he has no idea when or if he will be able to return to the UK, where he has lived for about 23 years, as his job is not guaranteed to remain open for him. He is also leaving his 19-year-old son and his beautiful cat and dog.

As Aviel spoke, his humility and spirituality filled the room, enveloping everybody in his warmth and selflessness.

Even after Aviel stopped speaking, not a move could be made or a word said for, oh I don’t know how long. It felt like the whole room was suspended in time.

Asked why he would give up so much for a father who left such a deep hole in his life, he simply said “Because I just feel I have to, it doesn’t feel like a choice. He needs a kidney, I have one I can give”.

I was completely awestruck, as were most others. When we returned our heads to the room, there were a few tear-filled eyes. Some of us had a strong urge to get up and hug Aviel, so we did.

For the rest of the day, I couldn’t get Aviel out of my mind. I felt so blessed that his soul had touched my own, and realised this was why I had felt that strong impulse to travel to the meetup that day.

But I couldn’t leave it there. I wanted to know more.

Later that evening, through the marvellous medium of Facebook, I contacted Aviel and asked if he might be willing, if he has time before he leaves, for us to meet so I could learn more of his amazing story. Thankfully, he willingly agreed. I had a lovely meeting with him yesterday and learned so much more about his life journey that led him to this place he is at now, and the opportunity to save his father’s life.

I have lots to write up, so plan to publish Aviel’s story in the next few days.

People often talk of karmic connections, or chains of events that lead us to take a different path in life. Like a staircase, it’s about taking each step, not knowing what is at the top, but having faith that what is there is for your highest good.

Everything happens for a reason.


Read Aviel’s story HERE

If you can understand Spanish, watch the video recorded by the Argentinian news channel HERE